Omg guess what she put for extraordinary expenses!!!

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HCBM is trying to say the $1000 iPad she bought the kids is an extraordinary expense. Haaaaahahaha!!
And no they do NOT need it for school. The schools provide chrome books for every family. Oh and not to mention we bought them brand new laptops for Christmas last year. I seriously can't with her crazy arse!

OMG the hits just keep on

OMG the hits just keep on coming don't they? On my end, BM just reported that her Mortgage went up (claims she had a fixed rate) as a reason for more child support!!!

Lol! Ridiculous!

Laugh in her face.....

No, her $1000 iPad purchase is a gift. Tell her that CS is DH's contribution for the support of his children when they are with BM and he expects performance for his money. Performance being.... BM cares for, feeds, clothes, etc... his children when they are with BM. Purchases are not usually a part of non CS related support elements in a CO. These things are usually around medical expenses not covered by insurance. When we went to the court for Clarification of extracurriculars, etc... the Judge clarified by telling us CS covers it all. Our CO also stipulated that each party was responsible for half of med expenses not covered by insurance, and for transporting the SKid to their location.

When she plays these games, know the CO and answer her accordingly.

I can't even believe she put

I can't even believe she put that! Should we put the bikes we bought them? How about their Xbox??? She is literally an idiot. An iPad?? Oh and she also put the stylus and the $100 medical bill that DH told her he called the insurance and it actually should have been covered and they are sending her a reimbursement check. I mean I literally can.not get over how dumb she is. Why the hell did her attorney allow her to put that??? Isn't she embarrassed? I don't get it. She does the most ridiculous things like saying she's "concerned" because SS told dad he would give him a back rub for $5 and DH laughed and said "go for it" she actually withheld the kids for months over that. The funny part was I actually had a video of that because we were all outside roasting marshmallows when he asked and I was recording everyone telling funny stories and he was karate chopping dad's back so innocently and DH was trying to tell his funny story while SS karate chopped and everyone was laughing. We showed the judge and she was furious. She told mom that it was sick that she withheld the kids from their father for that and to cut it out, give the kids back and if she ever does that again she could lose them. Poor SS was so confused. The therapist asked him if he felt weird doing that and he cried and said "not until my mom told me it was wrong" she is beyond sick this woman and stupid as stupid can get. These kids are so mentally abused by this woman it's horrible and nobody does a damn thing about it.

Actually, that judge's

Actually, that judge's reaction was pretty good. Hope you get her every time. Many judges would not have even watched the video and just dismissed it as conflict coming from both sides.

Well she was withholding them

Well she was withholding them so we called for an emergency hearing. The therapist testified for us too. Everyone was outraged! He has been a father for 15 years and she has never claimed anything like this. She gets sued for custody and all of a sudden she must withhold the kids because SS karate chopped dad's back and she just doesn't know what that means? Her attorney put "mom isn't a professional and doesn't know what this means" our attorney was like "we agree, mom isn't a professional so let's call in the professional" and there was SS's therapist to testify. Mom had no idea and was PISSED! Therapist obviously said dad is great and she has zero worries of any sort of abuse and the boys love their dad. Oh and they wrote affidavits before this and mom barged into their office and demanded they change their affidavits so they told the judge that she came in very aggressively and threatened them. It was awesome. Lol!! So for 15 years not a word about abuse then she gets served and she tried to say he was physically, emotionally abusive and "this back rub? Oh what does this mean?? I'm just an excellent mother trying to protect my children." She is a sick horrible human being and those kids are so screwed. She actually thinks she's a good mom. She is the worst! They only need protecting from her. My husband is thd furthest thing from abusive. He literally threw up after reading that. How could she do that to him? Why? Because he just wants to be a dad and spend as much time as he can with his kids. She says this about him? SO SICK!
oh and my ex husband had a degree in psychology and was a counselor for years. He also wrote an affidavit and said he feels very comfortable with my husband around our kids, that my kids only speak highly of my husband abd he has no concerns. So three therapists backed us up and she was squirming! It was the best!

Women like this really do

Women like this really do live in terror of losing their kids and being "abandoned". They also feel the end justifies the means, so will do anything to keep custody. In her mind, she is the victim of DH's efforts to take the kids from her. He might want to not try to get more custody and just focus on the money piece. Because she will destroy her kids to hang onto them.

Why??? It's crazy. I am a mom

Why??? It's crazy. I am a mom and I have 50/50 with my ex. I don't worry about losing my kids to their dad. I don't get it. Good point about destroying the kids. She already has.

Why toxic people like this

Why toxic people like this choose to act this way is irrelevant. They need to be purged from the lives of children and kept the hell away from people and families of quality.

smh

It is extraordinary that

It is extraordinary that anyone would buy kids a tablet for 1K, lol.

But she claims she doesn't

But she claims she doesn't have money for a parent coordinator. Okay.

Bribing the kids is her

Bribing the kids is her priority!

Exactly!!! "Oh of you come

Exactly!!! "Oh of you come home early I'll bring you skiing! Ask dad if he will bring you home early. You asked him?? Oh I'm so proud of you!!"
"Do you want to come home early and play in the snow with me instead of your father's wife's kids? If you want I'll invite ALL the neighborhood kids over!"

yeah that's her game and no they are not their step siblings, they are "your father's wife's kids"

sicko. Sick sick sick and she thinks this is normal?

Yes, she does. It was

Yes, she does. It was probably done to her as a child. Alienation is a multigenerational family dysfunction.

Nope. Her parents are still

Nope. Her parents are still married and are extremely wealthy. She calls herself a princess. She's just sick and twisted snd thinks she's entitled.

Alienation happens in intact

Alienation happens in intact families too.

Yes and I pointed out the DH that alienation of his kids

started long BEFORE he got divorced. Beaver was actively making herself be the one and ONLY parent even when they were married. She was very very insecure and terrified that they might love DH more than her.

Good point

I'm guessing that in your BM

I'm guessing that in your BM's situation, the father was wealthy and the mother taught her that men are supposed to give their children anything they want - and if he didn't, the mother talked bad about him to young BM. Setting the stage for future alienation.

My DH's parents were married until his father died, they looked from the outside like a happy family. But DH's mother would confide in him, at age 12, that she wished she never married his father, she should have taken DH as a baby and left him, he was a drunk, blah blah blah. DH bought it for a while but then he ended up hating both his parents and distancing himself from them - probably unfairly in terms of his father. That set the stage for him to end up with SS's mother, who alienated SS from him.

I bet your own DH has some of that dysfunction around parent/child relationships in his history too.

Wow! Interesting. DH had a

Wow! Interesting. DH had a crappy childhood. Mom didn't alienate, she just pretended that everything was okay even when it wasn't. DH felt obligated to marry HCBM because her family pressured him and he thought it was the right thing to do. Ugh!!!

Bio mum here 5 plus years after disappearing with sd

Who reconnected with their dad when 13 & 23, had sd23 remind dad he had to continue cs to sd23 indefinitely as she was caring for sd13 as bio mum palmed her off.

yeah after disappearing and ceasing contact, her hatred for my husband was so severe she would rather dump sd13 on sd23 which made sd23 elevated to mummy status and thinks she's mummy to my kids and she is the ultimate supreme decision maker until my husband 2 yrs ago told her she wasn't.

Yeah sd23 told my husband that it costs so much to care for sd13 oh and mum says you owe us the home you bought for us to live in and need to transfer it into our names only despite already having a then 1 & 2.5 yr old kids with me. Hubby said no that there was a loan and he couldn't transfer any property to them.

i told my husband promptly that if he didn't protect me and our kids futures like skids were demanding (including 2 adult skids) that i was getting a divorce.
hubby bought a home in my country in my name only so if anything happened to him, we had a fully owned home and wouldn't be out on the streets.

the level of entitlement of skids and exes is just mind blowing sometimes while we're struggling to make ends meet or build up our finances while they sit on their arses and milk us off

Omg! I know. Why does she

Omg! I know. Why does she feel so entitled? She expects DH to continue to pay her what he paid her when she had no income even though she's making 6 figures now. Yes, you heard that right. 6 figure and she still expects the same amount. We are overpaying her thousands of dollars and she just thinks she deserves it because she's "the mother"