We survived spring break

It's done and over- Thank goodness!

I think overall it was a good visit. DH and SS got a lot of one on one time and I feel like they were able to communicate well. I hope it is a positive sign of things to come.

Saturday evening as we were finishing up his laundry and making sure he was all packed up, SS's phone was dinging like crazy. DH finally asked what was going on. SS said all of his friends were trying to make plans with him Sunday night but he wouldn't be able to because it is his first night back and his mom and sister will want to keep him home and ask him questions.

SAY WHAT!?!?!

He caught my face (I have no face filter) and then tried to change it to "I mean they want to catch me up on the family stuff I missed this past week". I just shook my head and said "I am sorry you to go through being interrogated because you spent time with your dad". ------ That is so sick and pathetic (didn't say that part). SS just shrugged and Dh changed the subject.

He let his guard down for a moment and that is what popped out. We didn't linger on it, DH was good at changing the subject back to his friends and what they will do when he gets to see them Monday. I was glad he was quick because I was dumbfounded. I mean I knew it happened but the fact that he knows that it is coming and that they won't let him see his friends until they have fully questioned him is just crazy.

On another note. SS admitted to DH that he was sexually active. We aren't surprised, he is 16 with a long term GF. DH asked if he needed condoms, SS shrugged, DH asked to get a few boxes to send back with him on my next grocery delivery. No problem! I am waiting for the rage when BM finds 3 boxes of condoms (They should really make super size boxes- 12 to a box doesn't seem like it would last long). DH was a little worried about her wrath after SS left. I reminded him of the phone call the day that SS arrived where BM told him that "per her attorney" she doesn't ever have to speak to him for anything- not even travel for SS. So if that is her stance, and that has been what she has done (directly violating the CO) for over a year now, why would DH contact her for a parenting decision? He made a call on his parenting time using parallel parenting. DH knows he made the right call, BM had her first kid at 17 and DH was 19- that is a cycle I would rather not continue!

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It would have been delicious

It would have been delicious karma to have been able to tell him. "son.. you really have to be careful about WHO you have a child with.. I mean.. what would happen if you got that girlfriend of yours pregnant.. then you break up.. you will be required to support that child for 18 plus years.. and to top it off.. that girl could make it really hard for you to even BE a father to your child.. really.. it can happen like that".

I wish I would have thought

I wish I would have thought to say that!! I just kept my mouth shut and pretended to look at my deck of cards we were playing!

We always said the only way

We always said the only way SS will ever see the light is for him to knock up someone as crazy as his mother and be forced to jump through the same hoops his dad has had to in order to see his child.

I am 100% sure that it will

I am 100% sure that it will take him going through a divorce to a bitter BM to ever begin to understand what his dad has gone through.

I was able to say something

I was able to say something similar to my OSD (well in that same vein)... She was pregnant by Oops.. and she and her BF had not been dating terribly long.. but they were going to try to get married and make it work.

This is the girl who always felt that her parents short shafted her by getting divorced.. and that she didn't have all the things she was entitled to growing up.

I said at that point.. "Well, honey, this is YOUR chance to do things better than your parents did.. to not make the same mistakes.. They did the best they could.. you may find it isn't as easy as you thought it should be when you were growing up. Relationships can be hard... and you will find that as an adult, you want to live your best life too... and sometimes things don't always work the way you planned."

I'm glad the visit went well

I'm glad the visit went well and hope the kid is smart enough not to get himself in a situation where he has to raise a kid while he's still a kid. Personally I could see BM loving that...this way she has more control over him as well as a new baby.

We had custody of Spawn and she used to get interrogated on her weekends I guess they would spend all Friday night asking her about what we did in our home, etc. Plus when Spawn became sexually active DH set up an appt for her to get on birth control. Meth Mouth texted him that he was a disgusting dirty pervert for taking Spawn to get birth control. I think Meth Mouth was secretly hoping for a teenage pregnancy.

Reality is no matter what DH does it will always be wrong in the eyes of BM, because she's a crazy toxic twunt.

Yep!

BM thought that getting him a giant cross to wear as a necklace was all the BC he needed because he was going to be a virgin until he got married.

I looked at it and said- they are girls, not vampires- a cross isn't going to protect him! LOL

And if he does hear from BM

And if he does hear from BM about it, he should IGNORE THE WHORE.

Love love love

Love your comment. *ROFL*

There is no reason why DH

There is no reason why DH would need to tell BM that he provided his 16-year-old son with condoms, that's honestly none of her business. In the future, your DH should not do any co-parenting, and just send travel itinerary without a request for a confirmation from BM (if there are any more trips to your home).

Co-parenting is about BIG decisions, and condoms aren't a big decision.