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SD cries to the school counselor

Jcksjj's picture

Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 02/11/2021 - 2:33pm

Since DH didn't sign up for counseling like BM wanted, BM set it up herself and her and SD basically are telling the counselor a bunch of lies. Today the counselor sent an email to DH and BM about it. It's pretty clear SD is being coached by BM to make it sound like she's neglected. And the counselor is basically admonishing DH while BM is apparently perfect.

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advice.only2's picture

Submitted by advice.only2 on Thu, 02/11/2021 - 3:57pm

Meh I would respond back to the counselor "Not having any grasp of the situation nor having spoken to me I highly recommend you re-visit some of your counselor training, maybe a refresher course or two to help assist you in doing better at your job."

ETA oh wait never mind you said school counselor...yeah no I wouldn't give a flying fig what they thought.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 02/11/2021 - 4:15pm

Yeah I'm thinking we should ignore it and let it blow over. Let BM and SD know they aren't gonna get their way by bullying 

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 02/12/2021 - 8:13am

Don't ignore.

"Counselor,

Unfortunately, it appears that you have been told some things that are not true, by my daughter and ex-wife. I'd be happy to clear up any confusion and share my side of the story. Until you've spoken to me, please do not assume that everything you hear from them is true, as it's harmful to SD. 

My number is:  

Thanks, 

SD's father"

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Fri, 02/12/2021 - 8:31am

Straight to the point, thanks.

From the email what I can gather is BM told the school counselor that SD has self esteem issues because of DH. So they're working on her self esteem. I've never seen any hint of insecurity from her, all I've ever seen is that she's like BM and thinks she's special and wants to be treated as superior. And gets angry/insulted when treated as a normal person or equal to others.

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Submitted by halo1998 on Fri, 02/12/2021 - 10:13am

I find it to be unprofessional/unethical of you to make judgments based on just information from SD and HCBM.  Please schedule a date and time for a conference so that I am able to provide you my perspective of the situation.   Also, please be aware that SD is not longer in my care and has been soley with HCBM for last x days.  Any issues with SD that have arisen between x date and x date will need to be addressed with SD and HCBM.

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Fri, 02/12/2021 - 11:24am

I really don't like that she's encouraging SD to be at our house more and be more involved with us in general when she hasn't even talked to DH about the situation.

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Submitted by tog redux on Fri, 02/12/2021 - 11:26am

I'd do this, but without the first sentence. You will start off on the wrong foot if you express that she's unprofessional.