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OT - Melancholy Monday

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Welcome to Winter Solstice, STalkers. 

Is anyone feeling as blah about the upcoming holidays as I am? No festivities, no decorations (by choice because we're not in the mood), no nothing. We did our annual Adopt A Family (x2) for Christmas and it was simply by rote.

DH and I watched Christmas movies this weekend to try and get into the spirit. Halfway through Elf, we'd both had enough (Maybe Die Hard would have been a better choice...). I'm not listening to the radio because I find the holiday music irritating.

I'm soooooo ready for this year to be over (anyone plan to say JUMANJI at midnight on New Years?), but already believe that the first half (if not all) of 2021 will be just as craptastic and annoying as 2020. 

My pig brother-in-law wants to do a Zoom for Christmas. Ish. We bowed out as the camera on my work laptop is purposely (work regs) disabled. Boo hoo! And the last thing I want to do is be on a call with a smarmy, egotistical asshat controlling an event which we know would be annoying (to say the least). 

The Grinch comes to mind: Stink, Stank, Stunk. 

Has anyone been able to break out of the Grinch shell? What are you doing to lift your spirits?

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Cover1W's picture

I have not listened to one holiday song by choice this year and I have some great holiday music. I usually play it while baking hoiiday treats for people, but not this year.

I don't give two iotas about decorations. I hung some extra lights and got a shrug. I haven't turned them on since. Someone else can do it then.

I bought minimal gifts and told DH this. Told him to not get me stuff (he is about volume of gifts). I've minimally helped him get stuff for YSD. Basically saying wrong size, I don't think she'll wear it, etc.

I have no joy in it at all.

I did bring some friends treats and they were so happy!  (phycially distanced of course)  Finally, some people who appreciate it. I also scaled down the dessert I am making for holiday dinner (only doing the goose and dessert which I can make the day before). Why do some fancy thing?  I'm just going to make a basic lemon pound cake instead of the Spanish cake.

I told DH all of this and he got defensive and said, 'the holidays aren't fun for everyone some of us have a hard time with them and it brings up issues you know." OH OK then let's bring everyone down then to your level instead of trying to create memories and FUN. Which I tried for sooooo many years when both SDs were here. Yeah, ok, then. No holidays from me.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

{{{HUGS}}}

I'm thankful my DH is understanding. He cannot afford presents for the skids this year. I bought a couple of small items for each (about $10 per skid/SO) and spent $50 on the grandkids. That's it. No pleasure in wrapping up the GSKs gifts, which I usually enjoy. I felt a very small good feeling about adopting families, but felt I had to dig for it.

DH doesn't want to do our annual "Christmas cleanse" because no one is coming over for Christmas. (I hate cleaning, so I'm not saying a word!). What's crappy is that this would be the first Christmas where I am on really good terms with all of the skids. 

I'm so blah that I don't even want to do anything for NYE. Friends in our "circle" have invited us over. I mentioned to DH I'm not in the mood to go. His response was, "Oh, you're not?" But he sounded so disappointed, that I will suck it up and go, exhaust myself faking it, and need 2 days to recover from the mental expenditure. Ugh.

tog redux's picture

I'm a Grinch by nature, and I'm kind of glad that I get a year off from obligatory holiday stuff that I don't enjoy.

CLove's picture

Its really weird. I just feel like there is so much good about to happen.

Ive not put up the bunch of outside lights, but we have a christmas tree up.

Ive been playing holiday music every darn day, and humming it to myself.

Im excited about a zoom call with my brothers in law family?

I have been excercising and being outside in the sunshine always makes me feel pretty great. Its been fabulous weather, sunshine and blue skies...and I live in an incredible part of the US...

I hope your spirits lift!!!

Merry's picture

I'm thrilled not to be making the pilgrimage to Skidville this year. DH is mopey, but I am HAPPY for the first Christmas season in ages.

We didn't do decorations. I am baking up a storm, and people will get cookies as we see them. Will probably ship cookie boxes to the skids too because I'm feeling generous and I like to bake (but it's laaaaaaate).

DH is always mopey around the holidays. He is especially so given lack of the pilgrimage. I just don't care. I'm careful not to make it worse for him, but if moping is what he's going to do, ok. I have pointedly reminded him that I have wanted to stay home for Christmas for the last 10 years--pandemic hibernation isn't want I had in mind, but i'll take it.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Merry, even when things were strained between me and the skids, I was very careful to keep that negativity from spoiling DH's excitement of having the skids over. I considered that (and the cooking I did) as part of my Christmas gift to him. 

What kind of cookies? *biggrin*

Merry's picture

Cream cheese sugar, cardamom, chocolate and vanilla checkerboard, lemon shortbread, chocolate crinkle, bourbon balls. To start.

JRI's picture

This is a good holiday season for me, one of the best in years.  I typically have quite a depression in December because of all the work, drama, activity and expense.  I also usually get sick in December.  I've been scaling back for years but this year I don't even have to go thru the Christmas gathering which typically brings out the worst in the SKs.

I've got my beautiful tree up, I've got a few lights strung in the house, my brother sent me flowers for my recent birthday, I listen to my Christmas playlist, I'm healthy and life is good!

 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I'm always a bit blue around Christmas, but this year is the absolute worst. I can't seem to muster up the energy to do ANYTHING. Got out all of the ingredients for traditional Finnish bread....and put them all away. Blah.

Kes's picture

I am feeling like you, Aniki.  Much of the UK has just gone into lockdown again, and we apparently have a mutated strain of Covid running riot here. There is an embargo on lorries entering France from the UK, affecting our food supply, as none of the Europeans want to come here if they can't get home again.

Plus the weather is absolutely terrible - unremittingly wet, with floods in many areas. I don't have a Xmas tree up this year - just one strand of tinsel over the fireplace and a few baubles. The only consolation is the SDs are not permitted (under national covid rules) to come and spend the night with us.  They are coming for the day on Xmas Day, which is all that is allowed.  I felt so low today I have to say.  

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Oh, Kes, that's awful. I'm so sorry! I feel so low, too. {{{HUGS}}}

It's been too warm and we haven't had the usual snow (snowing now and the temps are FINALLY dropping for the next several days). Part of me would like to hibernate until end of February.

classyNJ's picture

We are in the "fake it till you make it" crowd.  We did put up the tree, decorated, cookies and some movies.  Not big on the music so haven't done that.

DH and I found an app that shows up the addresses of the local light displays.  We bundled up, put the windows down, heat on feet and brought hot cocoa.  We only did 3 places, but we got to snuggle in the car and watch the lights.  It put us in the spirit for the weekend. 

 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

We haven't driven around to look at displays because of the lack of snow. (Dammit!)

Classy, do you think I should break out the eggnog a little early? Wink

classyNJ's picture

Yessss my dear Aniki! 

We don't have any snow either but a little to go cup of Eggnog would help! Smile

Livingoutloud's picture

I refuse to be depressed for holiday, I still decorate for holidays snd we still have fun. We aren't getting together with family due to covid but DH and I still have festive meal and go see lights and have fun as much as we could. Life is too short 

both DH and I are essential employees with a vulnerable population and my DD had to cancel her wedding so life is hard and dangerous as it is and we can't see kids as they are out of town but life goes on and we don't let it beat us down 

 

advice.only2's picture

We are celebrating albeit just us, no other family.  I am okay with it for the most part, but it's hard not to get down knowing we are missing seeing other friends and family.  DH, BS and myself are all considered essential so really people avoid us like the plague since we have to keep going to work and our numbers here are soaring.  So aside from being on our own, I am grateful we are able to be together for this. 

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I'm so tired of all the negativity and arguing and BS. Maskers vs anti-maskers. Political idiocy. Hoarders. Cram into Walmart, but can't sit down for a cup of coffee. 

One of my nephews group emailed a news article about the vaccine. My arsehole BIL went ballistic. "That's a kid in the picture, not a healthcare worker!!!!!" And on and on and on because, of course, he's bloody perfect so should naturally point out anything he perceives as an error. Such a pig. My sincere apologies to pigs...

thinkthrice's picture

as usual.  We normally have a small Christmas anyway.  I made plum pudding for the first time ever!  I bought a small train set to go under the tree.  Granddaughter arrives in April so she will love it by her 2nd Christmas (if the cats don't destroy it by then)

I've postponed retirement for now...I have a steady job and it's kind of nice being able to work remotely for a few days a week...at this age anyway; i've done my time at the office and commuting over the last 42 yrs.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

I have seen plum pudding but never attempted to make it. 

Too bad you can't put the train inside of a large dog kennell...LOL

Initially, I loathed working from home. I now have absolutely no desire to go back into the office (35 years) and am seriously thinking about job hunting. Ugh.