I finally told DH I was stepping back from all the custody foolishness. I literally had a panic attack last weekend and I just can't do this anymore. There has been no resolution made with custody, BM won't respond to emails on it, and DH just doesn't seem to bothered by it until I push. So I made the decision to just not ask or say anything anymore. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm the only one that is bothered and therefore the only one pushing for a change. I'm trying to find a way to live with it, but it's very hard. I just know if this would have been a sit down discussion I would feel better , but since it was basically forced on us and I just don't like that. Anyways I just want some peace in 2021 and not be an emotional wreck all the time. Oh also, still no solid plans for Christmas or New Years as far as visitation..... just at a lost how a mother can be so cold and not have any sympathy toward your their own daughter.