This one didn match the bunch
3 yrs into the relationship and my FH admits that his bm oldest daughter is not his bio-daughter. But I knew the moment bm showed up at my house a year and a half prior. So my FH is caring for a child that's not his, I'm not the one to break that up so I let them carry on I have no place in that. So my FH has 2 kids plus one with BM.(girl 12 is his, boy 9, and her oldest who is not his bio is 14. ratchet a$$ BM. why you ask. so yeah when she showed up at my house it was because sd 12 called her ratchet a$$ mammy to my house for some mess she started with my son(17) whose bedroom is in the basement away from everyone for his reasons. I and FH were not in the house when this incident took place. Let me say I was nervous about leaving his kids with mine in the first place I have 4 boys who live with us 17,14,13, 2, Anywho for some reason ss9 went downstairs to the basement and my son(17) told him to go back upstairs. ss9 got reckless at he mouth and my son directed him upstairs, the boy ss9 admitted my son(17) never put hands on him but when sd13 decided to put her 2 cents in she put her hands on my son(17) and called him a b*#$h. My son called me immediately damn near as it was happening, I had to ask FH to drive faster smh. now we not in the house for 5 minutes and this chick bagging on my door like the police, I'm getting stories straight and trying to make sure no one was hurt because I saw a plant knocked over in my bathroom upstairs near the basement door and here she come.. I'll spare the details about her jumping around in my front yard yelling. and my daughter telling me I'm too pretty and not to waste my time after BM called me an ugly B%*@H. The police showed up of course and when I saw all of them standing together I knew something was not true. and when you a mom, look I got 2 BD (don't judge me you don't know my story thanks) and when I saw that girl standing between them and her siblings in front of them all i knew she didn't belong to him, he denied this for a while saying she BM showed him a DNA and that girl 14 was his. when I finally asked to see now he says he had been sus since the girl14 was 10. oh yeah in not done, Police told BM to leave so she left came back to my house and smashed my windshield, then she left and came back again and slashed my tire and bash the windshield again, then she left and came back a threw egg at my house and my truck that she tet let and came back a 4th time and bashed the windshield, yall that's not the half, every weekend for the last 4 years has been toxified. they not bad kids though...... fnc that sh!t. I love Him and he is a great dad and a great stepdad to all 6 of my but to see him around his own kids makes me cringe. ugh well my rant is over for today thank you come again next time bring a bottle of wine lol I like red
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I would not stay with a man
I would not stay with a man who lied to me for 3 years about something so important. Plus, all this chaos would tell me he's not a great dad at all. And he's not good at protecting you from his crazy ex, either.
No doubt
Yes at the end of the day it's all lies chaos and bullpoo.BM doctored the DNA document for FH to believe ukn girl14 was his. the coming to my house acting a fool. bio d13 is messy and likes to start shit. I told him I can and will leave if he doesn't put his foot down and control his circus. He absolutely protected her that day too btw, and although it's been a year and some months since that incident I still feel some type of way, I talked to him about my feelings and I do feel some reassurance. there's that but and a thin line *unknw*
The big lie, saying he had a
The big lie, saying he had a paternity test done- that is huge. To me, this has the potential for deal breaker. If he can lie about this, what else have you been lied to about?
I wouldn't care if she was or wasn't actually his. I fully believe that in divorce, you don't divorce kids (as long as it is possible or wanted to keep a relationship). He obviously feels very strongly about being in her life and I would have personally supported that.
As for this crazy incident- a couple of things need to happen.
On another note. You have 6 bios. You KNOW kids fight. You KNOW that sometimes it escalates but it should have never gotten to the point where they were putting hands on each other. They need to be sat down, as teenagers, and explained how they are old enough to have assault charges against them and they might not be tried as a minor if someone gets hurt. This is real world parenting stuff and you and your DH need to lay it out for everyone.
Oh yes there is more
indeed, I did file a restraining order she did not show up for court of course yes I got cameras I got arms training as well because in the past she has used a car as a weapon(not against me but still) yes this chick is off her rocker. No worries ill be moving out of town soon with or without him I told him this will be the last time I can no longer tolerate being undermined and disrespected by sd13 nor the little lie he claims. I'm just ready to tell him he has to spend time with them outside my home cause them little girls are also fass and messy like don't wash they a$$ messy and tellin my business messy the boy doesn't shower either and my house and the linen they use smell like stale cigs, and so yeah I have one final warning this year cause I can't carry this over to another year,,
My question is why lie to you
My question is why lie to you?
My guess is that he lied because he knows his ex is nuts and no independent woman would stick around and let her car get ruined FOUR TIMES if she knew one of those kids wasn't his.
How do you stay in this chaos? It can't be good for your kids to be subjected to the toxicity both inside and outside your home.
I try to understand that too
He claims he really didnt know one reason is that she did docterd the dna report and showed him a pic. yeah wow, but still yes why not say there was some suspision, Yes he had to know I was gonna say somethigs sooner or later. she does not look like eithe one of her parents, Omg I wanted to go out to comfront her, na i really wanted to beat her a$$, it cost him 350 in repairs, yeah i made im pay for the damages as he should. as for the current weekend visitation and the 3 day exposure we have to the toxicity. we distance ourselfs we go out or were in our rooms, im not going into the new year with this, smh i cant
Crazy
I think everyone on here has many stories of crazy BM's.
Welcome to the site. Not to be critical at all, but its easier to read your stories if you break it into paragraphs (for future rants).
You are not alone. There are folks that have bio parents who have been lied to as to paternity. I dont know if this is the relationship for you, however, due to the dishonesty (he claims that he was lied to - trust your instiincts on this one) but also his parenting game is failing. There is obviously more to the story than this post. Keep reading other stories on here, you will find the same thing over and over. Parenting failures causing folks to lose their minds.