“Court” Fiasco
Today SO was supposed to have his court date. Yesterday he finds out that it is actually a zoom meeting.
This morning, his lawyer texts him and says "your crazy ex wife fired her lawyer 10 minutes ago and is representing herself." My SO gets upset and says "Well, i better call her then and see what's going on and if we can work something out."
I told him that the person he needs to talk to is his lawyer and not over text, but he was determined to talk to BM about it so he texted her.
I got a little upset, telling him that's just playing into what she wants, and he needs to have everything go through his lawyer. We were in the car about to go into the gym (I'm off Wednesdays), and he got mad, saying he can't deal with my feelings on top of all this, if i can't just support him he doesn't want to be with me, and starts driving me home.
I was about to get out, and he abruptly turns around and asks if i can just support him and be on his side and not be negative. I told him yes and as his support person he needs to talk to his lawyer. With no reply from BM, he starts driving to his lawyer's office.
The lawyer is at his desk on a zoom call. He says they are in a queue and BM is also on the zoom call. He said we just have to wait and see what happens and the court date is going forward. He said my SO doesn't even need to be there so my SO says we will go to the gym.
Before we leave, the lawyer asks my SO to scope out the ladies at the gym and find him (the lawyer) an "under-35 former cheerleader" looking for a sugar daddy. Then he says to me "nice to meet you, just remember, when you turn 35 you're history!" I said "Oh no, when i turn 35? Really? I'm 42 so i guess i'm toast." And walked out. This sleazebag lawyer is about 70, 100 lbs overweight, is in a wheelchair due to a debilitating illness, and is currently going through his 3rd divorce.
I'm home and about to take a shower because the whole incident just made me feel grimy and idk what else to think. My SO texted and apologized for overreacting.
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EEEEWWWWWW. What a disgusting
EEEEWWWWWW. What a disgusting pos attorney.
I think you should report him to your state Bar Association for sexual harassment.
He really was sleazy. It was
He really was sleazy. It was my first time meeting him and i see how he earned the reputation that i had heard about from others. He makes Saul Goodman look like an angel. I might. After the case is over.
YUCK!!!
What a weirdo. Can SO get another attorney?
The part that stands out most
The part that stands out most is: your SO tried to reach out to BM "to work this out" when it's most inadvisable, while threatening to dump you on the spot because you challenged him.
So my SO got called to his
So my SO got called to his lawyer's office for the court zoom meeting. BM, representing herself, was supposed to be on the zoom call and is nowhere to be found and my SO has been calling her to try to get her on the zoom. She just had to find a way to make him chase her....
Like why is he holding her
Like why is he holding her hand through this? If she doesn't show to court, even virtual, isn't that contempt? Why is he trying to save her from that?!
Looks like your DH is his own worst enemy
Why worry about BM. Your DH is going to fold, to BM. Then he will start another court case.
Who paiding for 10 years of court ? By the time this is finish the kids will be adults
Update - so she finally
Update - so she finally appeared on the zoom, and requested a continuance (another court date in a month) due to her not having representation. Because she fired her lawyer this morning. Idk what her end game is. Apparently she bragged to SO's mom that she has been using her child support all these years to but rental properties and she owns 10. SO says she can't claim that as income because she is likely just breaking even on the mortgage until she pays them off or sells them. No clue what will happem but right now SO keeps one kid 100% of the time and the other 50% of the time. He thinks even with her claiming no income he will be able to get his $1000 per month child support reduced. He isn't sure if she will sign the quadro. Tonight he said "let's not talk about it anymore." So that's that.
She acts dumb, like
She acts dumb, like borderline slow, but maybe she is some kind of evil genius....idk what to believe.
Why are you okay with him
Why are you okay with him threatening to leave you when you don't tell him what he wants to hear?
You deserve better than that. Either he really is petty enough to leave you when you have his best interest at heart, or he's trying to manipulate and control you to do what he wants using threats and fear.
You have bigger problems in your relationship than his relationship with BM.