Dh's "stepdaughter" (read prior posts) is pregnant again. She'd had a kid prior and gave him away when he was 8 months old. From what I could gather from Dh's conversation with her hearing his side, she's happy about it. I asked him what she wanted (when Dh saw she called he said kinda annoyed "f#2%. What do you want, sd?"  Turns out she's pregnant again. I said "she doesn't even take care of the kid she's got. How stupid!" Dh goes "I don't care. I don't wanna go there." I said I don't want her trying to pawn the kid off on us. Dh repeated he didn't wanna go there.

Is Dh saying he doesn't wanna go there defending her in a way? Hard to gauge his feelings on it, but considering that "sd" has only shown interest in me in the past when I've ran into her and we had to be cordial, or wanting something. When I detect someone is only interested in using me it's pretty off-putting. I love kids but I have no desire to play grandparent in this girls life. Perhaps if she tries to pawn the kid off on us I'll say, "not gonna go there." 

Skid who's in prison keeps telling dh to say hi to me in letters or when he talks to dh on the phone. Dh doesn't pass along the message and so claims skid "doesn't know" that I don't want a relationship with him. Even if nobody has said anything to skid directly, shouldn't my lack of response be a hint? Am I wrong to consider his continuing to try to engage me by saying hi harassment?