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9 days until SS get's here... BM is making FB posts

justmakingthebest's picture

SS is supposed to be here in 9 days. Plane tickets were purchased 3 months ago. 

This is all per the CO, of course. For those that aren't familiar with my story- BM has severly alientated SS15. He stopped coming to our state for visits for 2 years. It was a lot of court, contempt and $$. BM was told that if she was found guilty of contempt again she would spend 30 days in jail and owe us financially for everything we have asked for. We are talking about 25K and rising. 

We filed against her for another 5 contempt charges for violating the CO since court in March. She didn't even last 6 weeks. That hearing is at the end of summer, date is still TBD.

BM made a facebook post this moringing that her friend screenshotted for us asking for recommendations for a teen therapist that would be willing to go to court. So that is fun. 

Since she is required to give us all medical info, this will be interesting. 

I am with DH and many of you at this point. She isn't going to be sending SS. She obviously doesn't care that she already has 5 contempt charges currently pending against her. God, I just hope she goes to jail. 

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tog redux's picture

I'm guessing she will file an ex parte order to try to stop the visit because SS is so "traumatized" or whatever, about having to go.

It's crazy to what lengths these women will go to WIN.

justmakingthebest's picture

It is hilarious considering that the GAL and Judge both have said that DH has done nothing to deserve not being in his son's life and that DH and SS's relationship should be encouraged. 

DPW's picture

Oh boy... it's time! I hope every therapist she approaches sees her for who she really is.

I suspect you've only participated in the battles so far, this time will be war with her. 

The_Upgrade's picture

At this rate the only way SS will see the light is if in the distant future he manages to knock up a girl as crazy as his mother. And he goes through everything his dad has gone through to maintain contact with his kid. Whereas SD in our case being female will have a much higher chance of morphing into BM junior, favoured by the courts and pass on the alienation to the next generation.

tog redux's picture

Yes, same for my SS. At this point, he's no longer alienated, as he does speak to DH - but he's still so enmeshed with BM that I don't think he will see it until he's 35 and his ex-wife is trying to alienate him from his kid.  And it will happen that way, too.

justmakingthebest's picture

Yes! That is something DH and I have been saying for a while now. SS has had the same girlfriend for about a year and 1/2 now. She likes to take over the facetime calls with DH and take SS away from their 15 mins a week. She will be a BM just like SS's BM for sure! 

halo1998's picture

SS will not be on that plane...sad what these women do to keep "their babies" close.  Smh

advice.only2's picture

She's dumb, if she really was so concerned about the kid she should have had him in counseling after he got back from seeing you guys for spring break. Oh well hopefully the court sees through her ruse and throws her in the slammer for the promised 30 day time out.

justmakingthebest's picture

Yep. 

I am looking forward to talking to SS's new therapist as well. It should be amusing. 

justmakingthebest's picture

After the judge's attitude towards her last time I am inclined to agree with you. 

However- the damage she has done and keeps continuing to do has become irreparable. So, what is it all for at this point? I am really questioning that right now. If she doesn't send him I really have a feeling that the judge will do a custody flip. That is scary to me.

tog redux's picture

Yeah, we had such high hopes, but once SS returned from alienation, he was no better than he was before he stopped coming over - just older and bigger and even more enmeshed with BM.

SteppedOut's picture

Wouldn't it be nice if you could just get the contempt $ but not switch custody? 

justmakingthebest's picture

Yes it would. 

But how would we even begin to tell a judge "thanks but no thanks, she ruined him too much for us now and we have 3 other kids to worry about that are currently healthy and happy at home, we want to keep them that way. Should have done this 3 years ago when we started petitioning for custody. He is beyond saving now"? 

Livingoutloud's picture

If SS is 15, it might be wise to continue phone communications with him and regular video chats and wait when he is 18 and dad can travel and see him in BMs state or make other arrangements. I understand dad wanting to continue fighting but sadly after two years of fighting SS still isn't visiting snd BM is still not facing consequences. Now mind you she might go to jail (I doubt though), it will alienate SS even more because mom is now a victim of dads evil actions. It's all sad and painful and I command you two for keep the fight going but at some point it becomes pointless 

Livingoutloud's picture

Well it's not him per se with bad behaviors but BM and she gets away with it. She got away with it for long time. That's how these crazy women operate 

justmakingthebest's picture

We as well as DH alone have traveled to his state and BM still won't allow visitation. She had made him "disapear" around his time to see us so that we don't show up and take him per the CO ourselved. I don't think there is any hope after 18. 

Livingoutloud's picture

I understand BM would hide SS now. I was saying when he is grown up. She can't legally not allow visitations at 18. My DD was away in college at that age and I had no idea who she would be seeing or not seeing while there. Of course I understand if he is alienated he might not want to see his dad but BM wouldn't be able legally prevent SS going out to a restaurant to have dinner with dad or meet him in the park. I wouldn't give up hope that SS could choose relationship whth his dad in adulthood