Things I don´t miss
---> All everyday/every minute almost! pictures taken of SD and shared in the group family like she was the last child on Earth (but when BF needed someone to pick her up from school or stay with her no family would do it) and from school too (I had to put up also my BF being in contact with other mums I didn´t know "because thats like that now, every parent has whatsapp group with the other parents"
---> Me always feeling like everyone was watching how I interacted with SD and the preassure that she had to like me! because she is such a great kid (such a lie.....she was a super spoiled and clingy child and sometimes people would say "let go of your father we won´t go away" and my BF just loved it)
-----> the phone calls of BM everyday of the dad week asking everything to SD and taking more than a half an hour or else BM would call the police (yes she did it twice when he didn´t answer) and he continued the crazyness by calling SD everyday too at same hour too
----> SD sleeping in bed with BF and creating drama when I slept with him making me feel stressed and bad ending all of this by sleeping us 3 in some bed
-----> to be continued......
Cut off contact with BM in
Cut off contact with BM on Dad's time. Schedule a half an hour call once a week. Neither parent is allowed to interfere in the others time with the Skids. Don't tolerate that crap from BM.
We already ended the relationship
I tried that to stop and it continued...at the beggining he would pretend he give me reason but at the end he was fuck it I wanna be a disneydad and have a mini-wife and be controlled by BM.....and you just have to suck it or you´re immature
Good move.
Good move.
Oh nooooooooooo....to those
Oh nooooooooooo....to those calls.
NOPE just NOPE...Visitation is for kid to be with dad and dads family. NOT to be glued to the phone to talk to mom, moms family, moms friends.
Good thing you are not in
Good thing you are not in that relationship, anymore. It was not for you.
same
i always wondered if him and her talking every day of the week is normal and even when its our time with the kids.
Feel free to revisit the madness
I had a "diary" of sorts that I wrote in during my ex-marriage. In it contained ALLLL the shitty things i endured. When we separated/divorced, and I would feel a bit nostalgic and missing him, I would pull out that journal and it would remind me of what I went through.
So. Feel free to post here just to remind yoursef of what you're NOT missing about this relationship and we'll be here to say "Yup..you dodged a bullet".
I think I will really do that
I was going to put a comment here saying I needed you all giving me words of encouragement and support......I do miss him and think we had wonderful moments and that he made lot´s of efforts and then I think again and no he didn´t! He was just really intense at the beggining but when I started demanding time for me and changes like no SD sleeping in the bed, no dog if we rent a place, no BM controlling my life, he stopped being that wonderful guy in love......Where did I sign up for this life of a crazy woman that didn´t wanted this life?
Altought I miss him I just can´t think about living my life like that.......being a Stepmother is as I read were once "going to jail for a crime we didn´t make" The thought of seeing her daughter grow up and go to problems as I read here and my life be a neverending drama and 4th priority for a person that wants me to put him and a child I´m not related 1 place just makes me wanna run and cry! I wish I could erase everything from my head!!! argh argh argh
Thank you all you are mt biggest support
that was me
I VOWED I would NEVER date a man with kids again. A few years later I did meet a wonderful man with 2 teenagers. We've been together about 2.5 years now and its been wonderful. (quite frankly, this man is a friggen Unicorn).
Anywhoo....I think you're doing the right thing.