I'm beyond frustrated with my SS. He's going into 6th grade but acts like a 6 year old. The kids sees a psychologist AND a psychiatrist for years. SS has been diagnosed with ADHD, Oppositional defiant disorder, and a few other "mood disorders" that change monthly and take medications for these issues.  Both SD and SM go to these appointments.   Both BD and BM use these diagnoses to baby SS and make excuses for his behavior and let him get away with murder. To begin with he is super disrespectful. Will cry,yell,swear and hit you if he does not get his way like a 4 year old having a temper tantrum.  If you ask him to do something like go take a shower and he does not want to he will just ignore you and not do it. We have two dogs that he is always bothering. Screaming in their face, jumping on their backs, taking away their bones. We tell him to stop and he won't and says hes "just playing". When the dogs jump on him to get their bones he gets pissed and kicks them. Its just a matter of time before he gets bit. Stealing from us. If we have something he wants it will disappear and end up over to BM's house. Thankfully he can only steal stuff small enough to fit in his pocket and money is never left out. He's a HUGE liar. Now he knows BD hates BM and vs versa. SS will come over and have huge stories of how BM dragged him out of bed at 6am down the stairs for no good reason. We know this is not true as BM treats him like a king. SS could make a comment about how awful BM's new hair cut is to us and if BD says something like "its not what I would have picked out" SS will run back and tell BM he called her ugly. So it sounds like SS is playing both of them. Things are always getting broke in the house as he NEVER walks. He's constantly running yelling through the house, jumping on the furniture in and out of the house tracking in mud as he goes.

I've been with my husband 5 years and living with him one. I've seen him discipline him once 4 years ago. With all the above behavior my husband just ignores or tells SS don't do it again which he always does. There is never any punishment not even a timeout. Now I don't know much about this mental conditions SS has but one would think there still would need to be some kind of rules and limits to what SS can do? Its a VERY nasty post divorce situation as BM told BD if he divorced her she would make his life hell. That was 8 years ago and she's been true to her word. SS is very aware how much his parents hate each other so this maybe half his problem too. Either way any advice? Anyone?