Looks life we will have separate Christmas celebrations
Tonight I spoke with my DH about Christmas plans. Since 2011 we have always spent Christmas with his family and with us usually hosting. We are not hosting it this year And after last years disaster with adult skid there would be no way I would be hosting unless skid was not attending. Last year I told DH that I did not want to spend Christmas with skid again.
This year I requested that we good to my sister’s for Christmas, she does her Christmas dinner on the 24th which is the same day that DH’s family celebrates. I reminded him that every year since we have been together it’s always been with his family.
He asked me if it had anything to do with his kid. I told him, a bit, but also we have not had Christmas with my family ever. We have had Boxing Day but not Christmas. Then he asked how me and my ex handled it, I told him for the most part we alternated years of who’s family we spent Christmas with, the exception was a couple years when we went away for Christmas on vacation.
He is not willing to compromise and says he has no intention of doing anything different. He suggested that I go to my sister’s house and he will go to his sister’s house and we can spend it with our own families. He said that he would maybe leave early and drive to my sister’s afterwards. My sister lives 1.5 hours away so I doubt he will.
The thing that pisses me off, after all these years he can’t spend it with my family. Well I will not compromise with him at all in the future.
Seperate Christmas it is then.
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So you either
So you either spend every single Christmas with his family doing things his way or not see him for the holiday? Wow. Sorry but it sounds like the skid apple did not fall far from the assh@le tree. I hope you go to your sister's house for a nice long holiday and have a wonderful time!
wow. He better be
wow. He better be reallllllly cute to get away with that. otherwise, why is it ok to always spend christmas with his parents and not with your parents all these years?
Just waiting for him to bring
Just waiting for him to bring up New Years Eve plans. A few weeks ago he marked himself as “going” to a News Years event that skid25 band is playing. He can show up to that himself because I’m not going, not even if he begs me. No more compromising from me.
Is he planning
Is he planning on kissing his son's ass at midnight? *ROFL*
Apparently. (Barf)
Apparently. (Barf)
Seriously!!!
Seriously!!!
I am glad to hear from now on
I am glad to hear from now on you are playing hardball with selfish DH.
Go for christmas, stay for
Go for christmas, stay for new year, hell dont go back if his idea of marriage is you having separate families.
Is your husband
Is your husband uncompromising in many/most aspects of your relationship, or is it just this? If it's only Christmas plans, I'd try this out, see how it goes, and see if he actually comes to your sister's house this year, then I'd re-evaluate. If it's usually his way or the highway, I think I might try marriage counseling.
Take a nice looooong
holiday at YOUR sister's house from 12/24-1/2!!!!
Wow. We've mostly spent
Wow. We've mostly spent Christmas with DH family too. A few years with mine, but not enough so that I don't resent it. And now my folks are gone and my siblings scattered, and some of them not speaking to each other. Oh well, that's a different circus.
Anyway, spend time with your family. Don't let your DH bully you into doing what he wants for himself. He doesn't sound like much of a partner to me.
And he can date his son if he wants to for NYE too.
Wow, Your DH is clueless.
Wow, Your DH is clueless.
After I posted DH's phone was
After I posted DH's phone was getting all these texts from skid's GF telling him what an a$$hole his son is and then her begging for DH to come over and help her. Nothing was happening besides that they were fighting. Gf is nice however when she is fighting with skid it gets dramatic.
I just cant stand skid drama.
After that was over DH was trying to suck hole for the rest of the night, even was sending me over the top syrupy texts this morning. So yes he knows that he is unfair but thinks he can be all lovey dovey and it will blow over. Well he is wrong. There are consequences for this choices. I no longer compromise or do anything that I do not feel like doing anymore, I am no longer the bigger person.