Question Regarding SS12 odd Behavior
SS12 has Always been somewhat immature and whiny for his age but Within the last year he has regressed considerably to a point it’s almost unbearable. SS has a room full of Expensive toys, smart Tv with PS3, computer etc BUT never plays in his room. He stands around waiting for DH to play with him. Well I should say “stands” for like two minutes then he’s running Throughout the house chasing the dogs screaming. This will go on till DH plays with him. It’s like SS does not know how to Entertain himself or self play. Oh he will play Video games on his phone for like an hour or two max( same room as daddy of course) and that’s only if DH is busy but that’s never a Guaranteed to last before he’s chasing the animals again bored.
SS has started talking to DH using a baby voice Especially when he wants DH to do something for him. So annoying! SS will try and get DH to cut up his food for him as he’s “Tired” from school or pour his drink. Yep DH will do it. Every night DH has to walk SS to bed, turn on his nightlight and watch him brush his teeth. SS wants this. Remember he’s 12 in Seventh grade. Every morning SS gives DH a big ol hug and says in his best baby voice DADDY! Yes before anyone tells me this I know DH is the problem because he allows this. BUT my question is WHY did this even start in the first place???? What I mean is I have a nephew who is the same age as SS and even if my brother allowed this behavior my nephew would NOT Behave like SS. EVER! My Nephew is at the age where he prefers friends over his parents and likes his privacy in his bedroom. The last thing he wants to do Is be hanging all over daddy.
Didn't you already ask this
Didn't you already ask this question once? Or does someone else have a skid just like this? Deja vu.
Anyway, kids are all different, especially at 12. Some are small and physically immature, some are bigger and more physically mature. Some are still interested in little boy things, some are more interested in adolescent things.
Also, personalities are different. Some kids like to be alone and do their own thing, others need a lot of attention.
The biggest issue is that your DH is treating him like a baby, so he's going to continue to act like one.
Yeah, this sounds really familiar
I sometimes wonder if at 12 some kids are just not ready to be teenagers (with 13 looming) and all they think that entails so they regress in order to deal with the fear.
Could mom also be trying to hang on to his childhood for as long as possible and also be treating him as a little kid again? Even making outright statements about not wanting him to grow up?
from reading on here, this
from reading on here, this behavior isn't so odd....but rather quite normal for step kids. I wouldn't call it normal, though.
My SD12 is very much the same and it drives me crazy. I also have a 12 year old DD and they are nothing alike. Nobody even views them like they are actually the same age.
SD is helpless (but I think it's an act for attention) and all she does at our house is have her dad make her special food and of course he has to cut it up....then she just follows him around the house...and even waits for him outside of the bathroom door or knocks if he is taking a shower and trying to talk to him.......if we go anywhere she is attached to him the entire time to the point where she never has any fun with the other kids b/c she is too busy following dadeeee around.
It is so bad that lets say there is an open bag of chips out.....she can't just go grab herself some chips and eat them. She literally goes and tracks down DH and asks him if he can make her a bowl of chips.........grrrrrr
BUT my question is WHY did
BUT my question is WHY did this even start in the first place???? What I mean is I have a nephew who is the same age as SS and even if my brother allowed this behavior my nephew would NOT Behave like SS.
It can be a number of reasons, he can be developing later than most 12 year olds and/or if your H caters to this behavior it's easier for your SS to continue. Like I'd ask him...son why are you talking like you're a baby or why don't you go use your imagination and play on your own? If your H is not modeling/showing him other forms of play and taking the time to teach him, it seems like he'll continue this way and not mature as most would at that age. Your H also has to question and get down to the route of this behavior that seems to be regressing if indeed that's what it is.