I want teen SDs OUT
I know I should make this long and drawn out with all the 8.5 years of details, but I just cant go there. I need to vent! People always think they "understand", but until you have lived the life of being on the edge of BM's parental alienating sword with her @$$ of narcissistic live in boyfriend d of 8.5 years...you just dont understand. These kids should be allowed to love everyone. That's what we tried to teach them forever. Nope. It just wont happen. BM and her boyfriend wont allow it. Now the older SDs are all teenagers 15-19 yrs, and they DO see the games the other side plays... AND THEY ARE PLAYING THE GAMES NOW TOO! For over 2 years now, I have lived in a home with my enemies inside. My DH has full custody. This kills me. I cant stand it. SDs have torn my kids' hearts to pieces over and over again. Gotten CPs involved over and over again. 2 custody battles... all their lies... all the pain and suffering... never having any money (court)... never having any safety IN MY OWN HOME... I just dont want to do it anymore. I want my husband to understand...THEY ARE JUST ABOUT GROWED UP! LET THEM LIVE WITH THEIR MOTHER! He is terrified she will just screw them up more, but we are at the point of separating ourselves. I am a Christian, and I do not want to get divorced. I feel terrible how much I cant stand his daughters now. I know I should not feel this way. But with the years of abuse my children and I have taken, is it so wrong to want his teenagers to go live with their mom? Isnt every other weekend with Dad good enough with high schoolers?
Calling CPS is very very serious
I would try to work out a compromise. If you live close, he can attend weeknight games, dinners, in attention to every other weekend.
You are endangering your own
You are endangering your own children. Time to split the blanket and protect your own kids from your DH's toxic prior relationship breeding experiments.
Does your DH see what the
Does your DH see what the skids are like with your own children? Or does he bury his head in the sand and pretend it's not happening? If it were me, I would make life so unpleasant that the skds would be out of there and back with their mother and I would not tolerate them in my house until they learned some manners and respect.
How in the world is a young
How in the world is a young adult over 18 not making his/her own decision where to live?
I can't believe he's managed to keep custody of them. This BM must be a real train wreck for court not to honor where a bunch of teens want to live.
You can't ask him to let them live with BM, you can only decide whether you can continue to live there. Even though, I'm sure the minute they can leave, they will.
CPS is the deal breaker for
CPS is the deal breaker for me. DH and I have already had that talk. The minute that there are false claims and me or my kids are put at risk- SKids are GONE. It would be one thing if BM made false allegations but if the SD's were lying about anything- OH HELL NO.
CPS was called for your kids?
CPS was called for your kids? Or for you? By the skids? Either way, Eff that. I would never let skids harm my baby or me in any way and making false claims to CPS counts as harming her/me. I wouldn’t put up with my name being slandered in such a big way for kids I didn’t even conceive.
I feel like, if you haven’t already, have a serious conversation with DH. Tell him everything that’s on your mind. Maybe they need to go live with mom. Maybe they need serious counseling? I heard that by age 30, if you keep being the same toxic person you always were, you won’t change. So, sounds like there’s still time to help them? If absolutely nothing is done, you need to focus on you and your children and leave for them
DH and I discussed sending
DH and I discussed sending Killjoy15 back to Satan. He was convinced Satan would see to it that Killjoy not graduate HS, in which case Satan would try to get lifetime CS from DH. Plus drag him through the ringer on ECs, college, fake medical bills, etc etc etc ad nauseum.
Because Satan is a psychopath (for real), I do believe DH was correct, which is why he had to move out, into an apartment for the remainder of Killjoy's childhood.
Satan has a long history of Muchausen's and Muchausen's By Proxy. We have another member here whose psycho BM had the same dream as Satan had and made it come true. Maybe your situation is different.
Boot them back to mummy’s place
It isn't worth your sanity, children's mental health or your marriage to continue having them in your home. I know what I am talking about as we had SD17 living with us and our new baby full time. The peace of mind I now feel not having her malign and negative influence around me, my family and my home is next level.
Given what they have pulled on you, you are a saint to still have them there.
GET RID.