SS12 very odd clingy behavior
Now MOST kids get to a age where privacy and friends become more important than parents. I remember at a pre-teen/teen spending hours in my room talking on the phone/reading/watching tv/playing video games or hanging out with my friends. I have waited 6 LONG years for this to finally happen with SS12 BUT if anything hes gotten more clingy/dependent on DH when he's over. Which by the way is 40 percent of the time. SS12 has a older brother who was not like this. The older brother would have friends over, go over for sleep overs could entertain himself in his room. SS12 NEVER goes in his room except to sleep. Never reads/plays by himself. The only thing he will do by himself is games on his phone or play with the dog but needs to do both in whatever room DH is in or the main living room which is the main hub of the house to say. The few friends he does have SS has no interest in having them over. We have asked. When SS is over if I want to talk to DH without SS looming over listening in I have to try to either stay up past midnight as thats the time they BOTH go to bed or try and grab DH's ear first thing in the morning before SS gets up.
Anyone else ever had this problem and what age can I expect some relief?
You will have some relief
You will have some relief when your DH grows a pair and starts applying boundaries and enforcing behavioral standards on his child.
That is when you will have some relief.
This is not the kid. This is the results of your DH being an abject failure as a parent. Until your DH catches a clue nothing will change. Ever.
I have same in SS but he is now 20 and still clinging to DW
DW SS was about 6 when we got together, he was same way had to be on DW hip all the time so much so that he would intentional be disruptive at school so the school would have to call DW to go get him, which was literaly everyday. It was so bad I was caalled back from deployement to the Middle East by her and his therapist. So I am sorry to say at that age he will never grow out of it and will only get worse and he will only get more brazen as my DW has let my SS do to me, they both act as if SS is the husband and I'm the insurance and a paycheck. SS calls DW at least 15 times a day and has to see DW at least 8 times a week.
Since SS has been 16 we have spent over 28,000 dollars in purchased vehicles and repairs to vehicles he was allowed to drive and have due to DW guilt of past divorce from SS Bio and SS first SD. every time DW phone rings its always about needing money, we also have and still pay SS cell bill. This nightmare will never end for me but hav Bio D and SD that am raising in this house with DW.