I have to brag for a second!
With all the turmoil that SS14 brings in our lives - through very little fault of his own, it was so nice to have the flip side of solid and supportive co-parenting last night!
I told my ExH and his wife about my upcoming surgery late last week. I just wanted them to be in the know since our kids are with them (3,000 miles away) for the summer. Just in case I wound up in the hospital longer or during the first week or so, being able to reassure the kids that I am ok if I look out of it on facetime...and maybe don't call mom 27 times a day the first couple of days just because I am not at work lol.
Well, today in the mail was a package containing a super soft night gown and a card about being "One tough cookie". Little encouraging notes from my kids and their SM. Talk about making me bawl! She even threw in a little gift card to Domino's saying that she was sorry she couldn't send a dinner over so she hopes this helps with DH's "cooking".
Y'all... This is how it supposed to be. I don't have to worry about my kids while I deal with healing. There is 0 drama. I feel supported and loved by my co-parents. We always look out for each other, and support and are flexible and communicate. We don't always agree but we always show respect.
I just wanted to let someone out there know that it isn't impossible and me and my exH weren't always this great. When we first split it was really nasty for like 2 years! However, one day we both said look, this is ridiculous. We both want what's best for our kids, right? We both want to be involved and active parents, right? So let figure it out. And we did.
(Disclaimer: You can't work with people with true personality disorders! I have tried so hard with BM2 it isn't even funny!)
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Nice to hear. My kids still
Nice to hear. My kids still keep in touch woth their step mom via facebook 5 yrs after their dad's passing. We never had any drama and at his funeral her & I & my 2 boys sat snuggled on a love seat together holding each other & crying.
BM on the other hand. She wouldnt be allowed at my husband's funeral if my mother in law had any say.
Normal people settle down
Normal people settle down after a divorce. Personality disordered people never do - and I mean, never.
So happy for you that things
So happy for you that things are working well with ex and his wife.
Normal, mature people can behave as adults and care for the kids and each other - and still mind their own business in respectful ways.
You are correct - as is tog - that drama comes from personality disordered, crazy, attention seeking people who use the kids as weapons.
They extend their own unresolved issues, anger and hate through the kids.
Healthy people are able to co-operate and co-parents.
You can't do this if only one set/side is functional and the other is half-nuts.
Hope your surgery is successful and you make a full and speedy recovery!
That is awesome! Stories like
That is awesome! Stories like this give hope.
I'm glad you guys are able to maintain a great relationship like this.
Yes
if you are dealing with mature people who don't hate their ex spouses more than they love their children and don't desire to use their children as their "confidants" and as weapons against their ex spouse and his/her new partner, then you're in like Flynn.
This is awesome! Best wishes
This is awesome! Best wishes in your upcoming surgery!
So glad to hear you have a
So glad to hear you have a great support system.
Do you all think it could be because some people just never move on? They may deny it feelings but those feelings are still there whether hate revenge, want pay back for being hurt whatever
My ex makes me a little upset sometimes but we dont go at each others throat, I may send a stern text or email but nothing verbally abusive.
My DHs ex, finally stopped texting after all children are now over 18 but she has found novel ways to disrupt our lives via the skids.
I think she is still filling their head w lies