Can I punch DH so annoyed

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So its our weekend for SD13, Tuesday she "accidenlty" sent a photo of her in the shower to everyone one her snap chat. So DH told BM and SD no cell phone at our house. We have been over this a million times, dont be skanky online, she cries says she doesnt know, then does it agian.

Well DH is on the way to get SD, BM text him: SD is bringing her phone, I bought it for her, and she needs to talk me she has it. She shouldnt have to go through your GF or you.

Well guess what SD is bringing her phone. I was to punch DH so bad right now. Be a man, use those balls.

Well now me and him are fighting. Maybe me saying BM is making him her Bic**, and that he sure knows how to bend over and take it from her. He is mad at me, but its like can he honeslty not stand up to those women. SD is awful, he told me I could deal with it when I get home. And I want to punch him.

I am an EOW poster sorry.

Easy:

"Okay BM, she can use her phone exclusively to call you. She will be available at 7pm tomorrow night for a call. If you don't like my rules around phone use in my house, then keep the phone. Otherwise, it will be off the whole weekend minus for the call." And he needs to TEXT THAT TO HER.

Then keep the phone the whole weekend.

right!! DH can't make either

right!! DH can't make either of them mad, because then they will be upset with him, and everyone has to love DH. Or he is to big of baby to deal with the real world. I am so mad right now!!

Time for DH to feel the pain

Time for DH to feel the pain of you not being around then.

"Fine, you want to let child porn be filmed in this home, you do so without me. I'll be staying elsewhere while she is here. Don't you EVER think to make me responsible for your parenting or your inability to parent EVER again."

Then LEAVE. Stay at a hotel, go to a friend's house, whatever. Just don't be there while she is there. Then, when you do come home after she leaves:

"You have two options: the phone doesn't come here or it doesn't stay on while it's here, or you can have visitation with your daughter outside this home. I will NOT have our home exposed to child pornography. If you like neither option, I suggest you find somewhere else to live permanently. I have nothing else to discuss with you."

If he chooses his DD over you, you know where you stand and know it's time to get out. Don't play with criminal activity.

So it’s not ok for BM or SD

So it’s not ok for BM or SD to be upset with him, but totally fine for you to be upset? Those are some messed up priorities he’s got..

he knows I will get over it,

he knows I will get over it, but they will make his life hell. So he takes the eaiser path, which is messed up.

SD is sending porn online, at

SD is sending porn online, at 13 child porn. If some other parent finds it and turns it into the police you will have a shitstorm like no other on your doorstep.

Google the charges in your state for child porn. You should at least know what the consequences are. Maybe THAT will get thru to him.

She can bring it. And then it

She can bring it. And then it'll be put up. Since when does BM make the rules at your house??? Gla dshe's not worried about child porn... That can get EVERYONE in trouble. Not just SD!!!

Also guess what, the consequence for SD being an idiot IS she has to communicate through someone else. Sucks to suck. She can have the phone back when she goes to BM. But you two DON'T need that crap.

So we have comprimised. DH

So we have comprimised. DH sent this Text to BM: Thats fine SD can bring her phone, it will stay on the counter all weekend. She can use it to call you or your husband, but thats it.

But he hasnt told SD yet, we are going to have a family talk when I get home from work. Which is going to be showing her an article of kids charged for cyber bullying and sending photos. So now i am off to look for those the worse the consquince the better for this.

She can be charged with possessing and distributing child porn

She can be charged with possessing and distributing child pornography, even though the picture is of herself. Your DH is aware of what she has done and is doing nothing to keep her from doing it again. Try explaining how that is more important than if SD and BM are mad at him.

Since he chooses to upset you, rather than them, because he knows you will get over it - stop getting over it. Cause him more pain than they do and he will start putting you first.

You should absent yourself from the house when she is home

Just start calling

Just start calling her "Stormy" and asking your DH how he is going to feel when his coworkers are buying her videos 10 years from now. For some reason people don't grasp that girls sending pictures of themselves really is kiddie porn but maybe it will sink in that she is practicing for a future career.

the path she is on now she

the path she is on now she will most likely be living with some man that knocked her up barefoot in the tralior park telling the kids to not eat dirt

she "accidenlty" sent a photo

she "accidenlty" sent a photo of her in the shower to everyone one her snap chat.

Why would she even have a photo of herself in the shower? Accidently sent it. Yeah, I bet.

Your husband can keep the phone with him and SD can ask for it to call BM (in front of him). She is 13, so there is nothing wrong with her having to "go through her dad", she is not her own boss.

My SD didn't have a cell phone back when she came over, and she rarely talked to BM when she was here, anyway. We had (still have) a land line and she asked to use the phone. Because she was the child.

Remind your husband that HE is the parent, his daughter is the child. Taking the easier path now, is going to backfire on his ass, later.

Change the internet password

Change the internet password and don't give it to her. Confiscate the phone and search her pictures/videos before it goes back to BM.

Ideally, he'd just take it anyway, but BM will likely bring that up in court and accuse DH of refusing to allow SD to talk to her (ours did). So the above measures will keep the peace with BM and make sure she isn't distributing CP from your house, anyway.

You guys don't have a house

You guys don't have a house phone SD can use to contact her mom?

no wish we did

Face facts

This is all on DH. Just take the phone away from her, turn it off, she gets it back when see leaves . you are making something simple, into who know what. There is nothing being done about sending pictures ? You know it was no accident! Had to first take the picture then send it .

He should lock her phone in

When he picks her up he should lock her phone in the glove box of the car and leave it there until he pulls up in front of BM's house when he returns her after his visitation.

End of problem.

update

So SD and BM said right as DH picked her up we win SD will not be bringing her phone. DH was happy, but I knew better. DH asked SD to help him do something and I took her bags in the house. Guess what was in the outside pouch of her bag. Yup her cell phone. Since she lied to DH face about not having it I swiped it. What could she say, she couldnt be like my cell phone is gone. HAHA she didnt ask for it all weekend but she did look for it outside and in his card, i guess she thought she dropped it.

Drop her off Sunday night, BM text dh with in seconds where is SD cell phone. He said IDK she didnt bring it over this weekend remeberer. Well its in my nightstand. I couldnt stop laughing I told DH what I did, i said it would teach them to lie to him. We are sticking with the fact we have no clue where it is, I turned it off so they can not trace it. If BM wants to play dirty I will to. Bm wont control SD and DH doesnt know how I took over.