So the first time I had the skids back around for Christmas was something that was giving me bad anxiety for weeks before it happened, BUT I stuck to what I said to DH and just completely backed off from parenting his terrorists. If I saw him struggling I would help him every once in a while out if the kindness of my heart, but the majority of the time I just hung out with my daughter and laughed internally as his kids threw fits all up and down the house and wouldn't listen to a word he said. Now I think he's starting to realize what a pain in the ass his kids are!!!! He felt sick one morning and gave the kids back early hahahahaha!

       He thinks his son will "grow out" of it, but I've only seen it steadily getting worse. Never seen a kid his age act so outrageous. I still have to listen to it, but I got me some good ear plugs for the visit starting later today. I still dread them coming over, but my anxiety and severe chest pain is gone. Disengagement is the best thing to happen to me in a long time and it's all thanks to this site! A month ago I didn't even know what it was! Thank you to everyone for your advice helping me to get to where I am, hopefully it will stay this way!!!