New possible sd
I have been with my partner of 20 years and 4 or 5 years ago he began talking to a woman whom he thought maybe his long lost daughter what he didn't tell me until a few days later was that he was talking to her for 3 months prior to telling me. When I did try talking to her she cut me out so as you can imagine it didn't work,but recently I could tell it was bothering him so I got back in touch and got them to meet. The only problem now is that he is trying to make up lost time in spending on her and throwing a mardy when we can't meet because of other issues in life and his other kids or beginning to notice, as a mother I am very protective and becoming rather anxious and irritable this he sees as me being against her. After saying this no dna has been done.
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Time for DNA testing and end
Time for DNA testing and end the speculation.
New possible sd
I have already got the dna pack and booking it in today I wouldn't mind but she's 30 and we've only met her twice and already he's spent well over 100 pounds on her and tried changing our own family plans to meet her when she wants to. Am I just being a nasty sm or is it normal to feel like this.
No, you're not being nasty.
No, you're not being nasty. Your hinkeymeter is telling you that something isn't right. If he's started spending money on her already PLEASE keep a close eye on your bank accounts. Has it occurred to him that this might be a scam?
I'm glad you've got the dna pack ready. Yes, she might be legit but you still want to be sure. And even if she is legit, still keep a close eye on your finances.
Keep us updated, will youi?
Thank you
I am so pleased it's not me I thought I was turning into the evil Dragon lol and normally I accept most people x
My mother was adopted when
My mother was adopted when she was an infant. About 20 years ago we finally tracked down her biological mother- there was a whole deathbed confession to my mom's 1/2 brother so adoption channels were opened... Anyway, we we finally able to track down her bio father about 6 months ago. The problem is, he is 89 and had dementia. We aren't going to upset him. That would be wrong. However, we did want to meet her other 1/2 sibilings, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews, cousins, etc. -- That family wants nothing to do with us. My mom has asked for DNA testing for closure. They think we are after something. Bio father was very high ranking in the army and then had another sucessful career. My mom was the product of an affair. Since he is close to death, I understand where they are coming from. We don't want anything, we are all just fine, financially and otherwise. Maybe some medical history and a chance to get to know more family...
My point is, don't think the worst right away. It is really hard to be on the other side of this equation too. You aren't horrible for wanting to be sure and wanting to secure your assets for your children either! That is normal and understandable. Chances are, she may just want to get to know you.
DNA test is the 1st step though.
He wasn't with me when she
He wasn't with me when she was born, she must have been about 9 years old when I met her dad and even then then he didn't know anything about her so the affair doesn't bother me it's protecting my family that does after all her mum was in a bad place should I say and slept around but there are other factors that say he is so that's why THEY as much as we need this