Yep. I'm an a**
DH has been telling me multiple times in the past three days that SS has his sh*t together. A few days ago it was a surprised DH that said "He's taking a shower unprompted!" to which I rolled my eyes. Then he's said that he's doing his homework instead of lying about it and I've ignored DH's comments.
But, I saw it myself once this week, actually from both skids. SD was home this weekend from college and she took a dish other than her own unprompted to the sink. Then, later this week SS did the same thing! Granted this is a tiny thing, but for kids who have no household chores, this non-selfish behavior from the skids is rare and DH commented to me that the skids are maturing. Personally, I think it's because I fed everyone pizza, burgers, fries, and cake all week. SS only shows me respect when I'm feeding everyone crappy food.
Anyway, I don't believe that SS is improving. I think it's all a farce. I'm waiting to see what SS wants from us. It's not like he's been great this week. He lost his key a while back and was told that we had to replace the lock and he would lose his allowance, so it was in his best interest to clean his room to try and find the key. SS complained that he needed a halloween costume and DH said "tough, go find the key or you'll be wearing an old costume". Instead of cleaning his room and looking for it, he spent his time thinking about his halloween costume. Then, he went to his mom's the next week and got her to buy him a costume. He then came back this week and wanted me to make adjustments to it. H*ll no! But of course, DH did. It was amusing watching him try to use a needle and thread and sew buttons. He and his ex have always relied on me to do this type of stuff for his kids.
So, I don't buy any of this improved behavior, but DH is soaking it up and he keeps mentioning all the good things SS has been up to. This morning, he checked SS's bag that he's taking to his mom's for the week and apparently SS had everything he needed in there. So, again, he says to me that SS has really got it together. I again just smile and walk away to which DH asks me if SS did something recently to bug me. I explain to him that I'm waiting to see what SS wants from us, that I need more time to actually believe any of these changes attempts to better himself, and that I have too much on my plate to even care. DH kind of gives me a sad face as he leaves for work. Then 5 minutes after he leaves, I remember...it's his birthday. I had already made plans and celebrated it this past weekend since SD was with us, so it wasn't on my radar this morning. So, yeah, I don't take back what I've said about SS, but I feel bad doing it today. I should've just kept my mouth shut.
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In all fairness the step kids
In all fairness the step kids just started doing what they are supposed to do so its too soon to tell if they have actually "matured". H will only know for sure until they continue to be consistent. That is the key when it comes to kids doing their chores, they have to be consistent. Just because he did it a few times in one week doesn't mean anything. Lets see how long this last and for your sake I hope it only improves.
I did text him happy birthday
I did text him happy birthday and he texted back that even he forgot it was his birthday, so I don't feel so bad.
SS actually lost all of his household chores when SD moved out of the house for college. Now, he's just required to shower and do his homework. So, yes. It really shouldn't be difficult for him to take care of his "chores". There's a lot of reasons why I roll my eyes about this stuff. DH wants me to be supportive, but I really just can't at this point. I'm not actively discouraging SS, I just don't say anything, which is the opposite of DH, who openly gushes about SS's changes. It's been three days...wtf.
Only three days *ROFL*....
Only three days *ROFL*.....really!?! Wow!
So what happens should SS do his laundry, wash dishes, sweep or mop? Does he get a new car? I mean really your H might as well give him stickers of gold stars because chores are things kids should do and it sets them up to be productive human beings.....LOL I can't!
That's how I feel, which is
That's how I feel, which is why I'm reluctant to say anything positive and everything DH says makes me just roll my eyes in disbelief. Thank you for understanding my pain!