My SD-19  who is a teen mom with a 1 year old baby got married to baby daddy 6 weeks ago. We continue to pay for her cell phone and car insurance. When I brought it up to DH he said well it’s a family plan so it does not make much of a difference on our phone bill and the insurance it will cost more if they get it just under their names because of their ages so we can pay for it and if they want to pay us monthly for it that is fine if not that is fine too. I talked to him and explained ok we can do it for 6 months while they get settled but after that we are not doing it anymore. They have 6 months to figure out what they are going to do and get financially stable to start making the payment but we are not going to be paying for those expenses.

My issue now is that DH has a savings where his child support money goes into each month it’s not much it’s 2k. We have all other joint accounts but not this one he says it’s just in case we need money we don’t have to touch our main joint savings account where we have the majority of our money and he was going to add me to it but we just haven’t had time to go the bank. I found out Monday that he has been transferring money from that account to SD account because she did not have enough for her car payment and the week before it was because she only had $1.00 in her account and before that she was short because she needed money for school. It makes me mad that she chose to make an adult decision to get married but still needs daddy’s money but it pisses me off even more that my husband never mentioned it to me or talked to me about it. I would have been ok with it and just told him that’s fine but you need to let her know that she can’t make this a habit. Once or twice is fine but not all the time we are already paying for her other expenses. When I asked him why he didn’t tell me he said he just forgot and besides it’s not taking from our household money because it’s CS money and it’s meant for his kids. First of all your kids live with us and I contribute financially to support all our kids so yes that money is for our household and she is 19 your CS payment reflects support for 2 kids not 3. I’m very upset that he would not tell me and I could let it go so were not fighting about it but at the same time I feel like I have to set my boundary right now or else it will escalate into something bigger later on. Should I continue fighting this battle or what would be a good compromise? His daughters poor choices have created a lot of contention in our relationship and in our marriage. That is the one main thing we fight about. As much as I didn’t want her getting married I was kinda glad because that meant she would be out of the house and would be less of an expense for us but now it seems like it’s going to become even more unless we stop it right away.