Ok so I posted earlier about issues with skids and them staying up all night. I basically heard back from everyone the kids are brats and dad is a wuss.

We (FH and I ) got into a huge fight this weekend. I was annoyed with SS and his behavior. He has ADHD and was being what I consider annoying. His father told him to stop, for SS to find something else annoying to do, seconds later. After about the 4th time I told SS he was acting dumb and being annoying. Later FH told me I hurt SS feelings. Also FH stance is that is just how the kid is and he wasn't doing anything wrong. Basically I was wrong!

After saying something to correct SS misbehavior, I launched into the several write ups and detention given for this type of behavior going on in school. That I can totally see where teachers and administrators at the school get fed up. I explained to FH that just because he as bio dad is used to this type of behavior does not make it ok. Telling me the kid used to be a lot worse and that this is minor, didn't help. Then SS says "I don't care about my behavior in school, all that matters is my grades." All bio dad did was say well I care while he was basicly paying more attention to FB on his phone then the problem with his son.

Hours later when on way to a just us, couple time event without any kids is when he brought up how much I hurt his son's feelings. We had a huge argument about the bedtimes, inappropriate behavior out of 12 and 14 yr olds, etc. He said basicly I am calling him a bad parent bringing up how the oldest two didn't turn out so great. Also that skids told BM comments I made. Basically it ended with him telling me I better not contact BM and ask her to restrict the data and texting during the night. That he doesn't discipline my kids so I better stop disciplining his. I told him if my kids need discipline do it! He won't. 

So where does this leave me? I'm done trying to set any rules or discipline in his kids lives. If it effects me or my kids I will warn and then take action. He needs to step up to the plate since he claims just talking to these brats will make them do the right things. He will not threaten to take anything away and even if he does he will not follow through.

I am going through with switching the boys room around. I have decided to set the switch to take place Tuesday evening. I am giving SS warning that it is going down then and he better have his room clean before then and things ready to move. SS wont have this done, but then daddy can coddle him and clean it with him. If I have to do it, it will be with a shovel. 

FH still does not think it's right to make SS and SD share a room. Right now SD is at a friends for the week. Rooms will be switched by boys while she is gone. If when she comes back, even once, she keeps my daughter awake or wakes her in the middle of the night... it's adios get your ass to the other side of the basement and take all your stuff with so you have no reason to go into my daughter's room anymore. I told FH they can annoy the shit out of each other and leave my kids alone.

This weekend was to mark the beginning of no more staying up all night. FH rule, not enforced. It's 2:30pm and SS is still asleep. I don't know how late he stayed up and don't care anymore. When school starts and the detention starts, I'm simply going to tell the school daddy doesnt believe in bedtime so he is tired and moody. Give him detention, IDK! Oh and I'm not picking him up after detention either. Daddy can, or he can walk a few miles. I would love for him to have to walk but I know daddy won't let that happen. 

Extra stuff for step kids, I'm disengaging. Find your own ride to or from friends house. Extra friends over at my house, nope. I let SD have a friend over and SD actually slept all day leaving friend to fend for herself. How embarrassing! 

I'm going to protect myself, my kids and my house but other than that his kids are his kids. He can deal with all the issues that will arise from his wuss style of parenting.  If I try to do anything I'm the mean mom. If it directly affects my kids I will step in. Example skids keeping my kids up at night. If they want to stay up all night, whatever! I'm telling him you parent before I have to. If it gets to the point I have to step in I'm doing whatever I think is necessary. If that means taking phones away I'm going to do it. And he better not go behind me and give them back. I don't care BM pays for them. I don't care! It's my damn house and if they can't be quiet at night I will take them. Also if girls are sharing a room and my daughter is kept up. Move your ass into your brother's room. My house and my daughter has a right to sleep at night. 

FH as been telling SS to clean up room for days and it's not happening. I'm giving a last warning to FH the room switch is happening Tuesday evening whether he cleaned or not. If he has not cleaned I am literally going to take a shovel and garbage, dirty and clean clothes, electronics and anything else on the floor are all getting shoveled to the room across basement. He can clean and sort the mess from there. It's been enough warning. I'm not telling SS, his father can. When the deadline hits,  I'm grabbing the shovel and acting. 

And going forward this is how it will be. He needs to step up and parent. I will give him that chance but when it gets to the point I have to step in, I'm just acting.  Either he will learn to step up before I upset his precious babies or they will get upset. And when they cry and want to go 14 hrs away to mommas house, GO! But I'm done with that game and you are never moving back. So, take all the shit with you! ALL OF IT! BM can have her brats back. She can deal with what her and bio dad have created, spoiled little monsters. When the kids lived with her our life was blissfully peaceful and I will gladly welcome that back.