Oh, for crying out loud, DH
Mr. WOB is getting tired of the silent treatment. I don't give a $hit :-)
When I got home from work, he came downstairs "hi! how was your day?" Fine. He kept blathering on but I couldn't hear what he was saying because I was on my upstairs to change my clothes 
He got the message and stayed away from me until it was time for dinner. Another patented silent dinner (I swear, the skids have literally nothing to say) and then I went to watch some tv. He came and sat down beside me. "This Is Us" was on, and so he knows not to say anything to me
When the show was over, I looked at him and said "making any progress on the shower thing?"
Him-yes
Me -care to share?
Him - nope
Me - seriously?
Him - yup
Me - so it's a secret plan?
Him - I have it under control
Me - fake news
Up to bed I went.
This morning, I found him in his office and said "seriously, it's a secret? That's the dumbest thing I think I have ever heard you say, and remember, I JUST heard you say that you are helping your almost 16 year find ways to cut her shower time."
Him - it's not a secret
Me - oh, good, then you will tell me this great and awesome plan?
Him - no
Me - but it's not a secret?
Him - no
Me - I am going to work
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OH the infamous "I have this
OH the infamous "I have this under control." *EYE ROLL* My Dh will sometimes say the EXACT same thing... Come to find out he won't have read some important document he needs, or hasn't even started... That is like the BIGGEST bull answer in the book!
I just make sure I read ALL legal documentation and know EXACTLY what it says. LOL. Other than that he calls it "nagging," I call it a friendly reminder. And it normally works and gets the s*** done.
My Dh knows how I feel about keeping thrings form me though... So he doens' t do it thank goodness.
I think both of you were a
I think both of you were a little in the wrong.
You were giving him the silent treatment even as he attempted a normal conversation. And when you finally talked to him it's about a stepkid issue. And his response was very immature.
I used to have a similar problem with my husband. It felt like the only time we were talking was when we were arguing about his kids.
Now, I refuse to make any of our conversations about his kids. It helps a lot.
He wasn't attempting a normal
He wasn't attempting a normal conversation. He was trying to get out of the doghouse.
We RARELY talk about skids, since I am disengaged. The only reason this came up is because something happened in the house that affected ME.
I will translate:
I will translate:
"making any progress on the shower thing?"
Him- I'm OK with cold showers as long as I don't have to address my widdle princess. So yes, my plan is to do nothing and hope you drop it.
Me -care to share?
Him - No. I'm just waiting for you to drop it.
Me - seriously?
Him - yup
Me - so it's a secret plan?
Him - Yes because I can't tell you my plan is to be an asshole until you drop it.
Me - fake news
I want to buy you a drink, lady.
Oh, you will have to buy me
Oh, you will have to buy me many, many drinks
Huh?
I had to go back and read your other blog because I missed the shorter shower convo. He's helping her find ways to cut corners and take a shorter shower???? LMAO She's SIXTEEN, not 6. I do everything (that I think) "normal" people do in the shower... wash my hair, condition my hair, wash my face or put scrub on my face, shave my body parts, use soap on my body parts and lastly rinse the conditioner out of my hair. I think it might take me 20 minutes max??? Am I missing some important steps?? Is she actually in the shower 45 minutes or in the bathroom 45 minutes?
And again, the simple thing to do would be to tell her to set an alarm on her phone, which I'm sure she has in the bathroom with her and figure out how to get her shit done in 15-20 minutes. Why is he being a passive agressive shit head about something so stupid??
Right?? And, no, you're not
Right?? And, no, you're not missing any important steps. She is in the barhroom for well over an hour. While I have no idea if she is IN the shower for 45 mintues, she has the water running for 45 minutes.
We all KNOW what the simple thing to do would be - well, everyone except my DH, that is.
Idiots
SD20 believe it or not, was not terrible about showers, I think she was in the bathroom a "normal" amount of time. The problem was SS19! Ever since I've known DH (SS was 8 when we met) he has taken ridiculous amounts of time in the shower. Like so long that DH would have to knock on the door and make sure that he was OK.
The last time he was at our house which was about 3 years ago? I wanted to vomit. He was in the shower.... forever.. and kept LOUDLY hacking up loogies the whole time. I think I bit a portion of my tongue off trying not to say something to DH.. thankfully, DH wondered on his own WTF he was doing in there and knocked and asked him.
I will say that when my BS8 takes a shower, he likes to stay in well past being clean and having all his shower duties taken care of, he just likes the warm water to run on him.. but he generally takes a shower at night or AFTER everyone is done in the morning, so he's not being disrespectful to the rest of the house.
You do know what boys and
You do know what boys and lots of men do in the shower don’t you?
Hell, girls too if the shower head can be hand held. *biggrin*
I can completely identify
I can completely identify with this. SD17 would drain every drop of water from the hot water heater. What we figured out was she was turning on the water and then either watching TV or getting on her phone for an unknown amount of time. All the while the hot water would run and run....absolutely no regard for anyone else..ever.
WTH?
WTH?
What happened with that? Did your DH talk to her?
Yep - same here. DH actually
Yep - same here. DH actually told me that he had to tell KarateKid to NOT sit on the toilet doing his business with the shower running.
I can literally shower in
I can literally shower in like 5 minutes flat (unless I shave, shaving takes time unless you feel like cutting of a limb with a small razor. lol) I don't get why someone needs a 45 minute shower.
I can shower and be ready to
I can shower and be ready to go somewhere in 25 minutes. How does it take someone 45 minutes just for the shower part of it?
Oh WOB…you know how this goes
Oh WOB…you know how this goes.
He tell the kid this…”So WOB noticed that you are taking 45 minute showers. You know I don’t care but she pays the bills also so I need you to cut them down a little bit. Maybe just get out 5-10 minutes sooner so that WOB won’t be so upset about it. Thanks snookie.”
Im not sure if yall split the bills. If you do, I would make that bill 100 percent HIS and just forget about timing her showers. Let DH pay that big bill himself.
Right?
Right?
I have my own tack - I make sure that HE is the last one to take a shower each morning and the teeny tiny bit of hot water that is left? I leave the shower running until it's cold.
Because I am a bitch like that