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Submitted by stepmominhiding on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 10:20am

Between us both we have 3 kids... his and mine. It's all been fairly easy. minor bumps in the road. although DH thinks that siblings should never fight, not sure where he got that notion. lol!!!

 

SD13 has been doing extracurriculars after school since she's been in middle school, and I have been so happy that shes been able to. She even called DH to "ask" if it's ok since the practices fall on his scheduled days. He starts off with no, but then somehow she turns it into a yes. Thats fine, I'm just glad shes able to do it. Shes been in 3 extracurricular activities this year. Shes been so happy!

 

Then comes time for my daughters to be interested in an after school activity. Dh throws a huge fit that it's going to cut into our evening (which we're never doing anything anyways). The only thing that will change is that on the days of her practice I wont be cooking dinner, big whoop! DH doesn't like my cooking anyways lol. The only thing I see this being a problem with is that if SD's and DD's practices coincide then we won't all go make it out to pick up SD like we always do, DD14 and I will go pick up DD13 from practice.

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 10:32am

"I'm sorry you feel that way, DH, as I have never felt that SD's activities cut into our time. In fact, I love seeing how happy your daughter is in activities, and I want the same for MY daughter."

I do think it would be good to map out on a calendar when all these activities will be and make sure you DO keep time for you and DH and the family as a whole. Some of these ECAs are ridiculous with their commitment requirements, so definitely make sure that you schedule in you, we, and us time, as well as downtime for DD.

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Submitted by ProbablyAlready... on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 10:56am

*"Accidentally" sinces DDs up for 3 activities each "without realizing..."* Kidding... Probably shouldn't do that.

That's rough though, just express how happy you are for SD and how amazing it is for her to enjoy those and that you're excited to let your girls do the same so they can be as happy as SD... I'm sorry your DH is being stupid.

Also DH said he didn't like my cooking once, I stopped cooking for a few weeks, he changed his tune, he now raves over it Wink

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Submitted by ndc on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 11:04am

I like lieutenant dad's response, word for word.

Unless there is some big disparity between the activities the girls are doing (like one activity is 1 day a week and the other is 3 days plus a weekend day), then I think your husband is being ridiculous, and that ridiculousness needs to be pointed out to him.  That said, you might ask DH to lay out his real objections.  If it's dinner, maybe you could make dinner in the crock pot so that it will be ready when you get home from the activity (or if you'll be really late so that DH and the other kids can eat without you).  Without knowing more than a general "it cuts into our evening," which doesn't make all that much sense if you're not doing anything anyway, it's hard to address his needs.

 

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Submitted by Simpleton21 on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 11:48am

Looks like you are new here!  Welcome :) 

Lieutenat_dad  definitely gave you a great response to his BS!  

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Submitted by bearcub25 on Wed, 03/07/2018 - 1:09pm

On the evenings your DD has the activity, put something in the crock pot, easy peasy.

I don't understand the 'whole family must pick up from practice' thing I hear from other posters.   When SD needs picked up, then let him do it or you and your DD do it.  

Tell him its a good time for him to get some alone time and de-stress with no one in the house.  Or just tell him suck it up buttercup.