Okay, so yes, I am raising SD. Yes, I love her. I don't need any "so the REAL colors come out Huuuuh evil SM" BS comments; got that before and it is really not helpful in the least. I can care about her and still have her get on my nerves to the Nth degree.

Okay, so now she is sneaking HOHO cakes for breakfast. I have been going back to work at night to finish reports and sleeping until 9am, she is 13, she can get herself to school. Well, she says she can't have breakfast because I don't get up and feed her. She is 13 FFS.

I asked her to make her lunch last week, I have been sick and working a lot and working late. She refuses to make herself a sandwich. Instead, she goes to school and mooches chips and cries about how she has not ate allll daaaay and how I don't feed her..then she comes home and waits for me to be back at work and gorges out everything we have. She has gone up two pant sizes and whines about being heavier than all her friends. I am so agitated.

When I was 13, I made myself toast and eggs for breakfast. She is capable of making herself hot dogs, macaroni and cheese, sandwiches, peanutbutter and jelly, bologna, or turkey sandwiches, she is capable of putting stuff in her lunch box. She just doesn't WANT TO.

She has this one character trait that I hate to say, but must be inherited. She soaks up pity and sympathy like a sponge. She will twist things when talking to people to make them feel sorry for her and it is typically geared at me. "my mom is mad at me again and I didnt do anything, I am so sad" (all I had said to her was "honey, its okay for the boy to post he likes you and that you're the prettiest, but could you please ask him to tone down some of the other stuff like how he wants to kiss you and how you know each other so well, since you only been "together" at school for one month and its getting to really make your grandparents uncomfortable. Okay pumpkin?" - literally what I said, and with a sweet voice. She texted him that I was "mad at her" and she was "in trouble" and that she "loooooves everything he says and how he calls her 'babyyy' but that her mom is being hateful and mom said he can NEVER post on her facebook anything EVER". <- Dramatic much??? I just asked, NICELY, if she could tone it down a little, being 12...

She texts this other friend how she is being abused because she had to water the elderly neighbor's yard and how "my mom thinks I am selfish and lazy so makes me water everyone in the world's yards in the hot sun for hours, and yeah, I still have not had anything to eat at 2pm but she has not fed me and looks like she is not going to feed me lunch so I guess I will die out here". ... I read what the friend wrote back too.. the friend said "WTF you're almost 13 if you're hungry quit being such a bitch and go eat, your mom is freaking working and you're not 4, are you? I am so sick of you whining and complaining you have it so good".. (hehehehehe). DSD said back "oh yeah, well I am not your friend no more, you don't know how bad my life SUCKS!"... Seriously. SERIOUSLY??

This girl threw a fit when I had fucking MONO and was half dead with a white count of 1.0, a fever of 102.3, and couldn't eat and was 13 weeks pregnant--- why? Because I did not GREET HER ENTHUSIASTICALLY ENOUGH WHEN SHE WALKED THROUGH THE ROOM EACH TIME THROUGHOUT THE DAY.

I can seriously not do anything good enough for her, it feels like. She uses me to whine to her friends and get pity. Even when I made her lunch last night (and still had to go back to work at 10pm for two hours) she left it in the refrigerator...I know for a fact it is because she likes how it feels for people to feel sorry for her. It is a life-long trend that I had been trying so hard to make her change. Her BM is exactly like that too though, unfortunately. She has not been around her all that much, especially not in the past few years so its weird. I do get whiny when sick, but I keep it under control and don't trash people, ya know?

It hurt my feelings when I read what she said to the boy about me "being mad" "saying she was going to be grounded if he ever posted on her facebook anything ever again" and all that.

I am worried because she has gotten more and more sneaky, like disturbingly. She lies constantly. DH leaves it to me.

I took the computer away for a week not to punish her, but because I NEEDED A BREAK FROM HER BEING ON THE COMPUTER AND HAVING TO CHECK IT EVERY NIGHT FOR HISTORY AND CHECKING FACEBOOK TO SEE IF SHE FRIENDED STRANGERS OR ANYTHING STUPID.

I love her, but I am so tired. I am 8 months pregnant. I have anxiety disorder and depression and no meds, and I have been so GOOD and NICE even when agitated, I say that I am agitated and just give me a little space, and I never take it out on her or do any thing.

She is always texting about how boring her house is, how she isn't fed breakfast or lunch, and how unfair it is that she got a consequence for whatever rule she snuck, lied, and broke recently.

She sent out a text to every kid on her phone and said "I know I am ugly and no one likes me, so text back and rate me and tell me why you don't like me or why you think I am actually pretty and you do like me"... ///GAG???///

I just wish she would stop and give me a break, just a little break. DH doesn't give a crap about anything and so long as she is breathing, he doesn't care about internet or phone or whatever.

I am not being overly controlling either, monitoring her phone use and facebook, she is 12 not 17.

**Edited to add: The irony that I am posting here, whining about her, is not lost on me since her whining about me is what is part of what irritates me. However, I am not embellishing or making things up or intentionally not taking lunch to get pity. She keeps saying she is fine in the morning, but then she can't eat cause no one feeds her (hello cereal??) so I am going to tell her if she is tooo little to make a bowl of cereal then she is too little to do x, y, and z and I will rearrange my schedule to be up with her every single morning (which means no more sneaking on the facebook every morning like I know she does LOL).