So, DH has sole custody of SD10 since January. BM has supervised visits every other weekend due to her mental instability and because BM is a high "flight" risk.

DH has FINALLY taken BM's phone number out of SD's phone, so now all communication with BM is supervised at the visits only(About damn time!!!!) I haven't talked about it much, but DH had to finally block BM's communication with SD because of very inappropriate comments to SD and BM telling SD that it's all SD's fault that they're in this situation and also BM has told SD several times she is going to kill herself. BM also called SD and texted SD at 1AM telling her that BM's boyfriend is beating her and that SD needed to help her and call the police...DH called the police..anyway....BM is very unstable and to the point where it's gotten scary. BM has also told DH, through text messages that "If I ever get the kids back, no one will ever see us again."

Anyway...We want to move to VA Beach, VA next summer. DH already has a job lined up and we already have a house..A much bigger house waiting for us. We have already picked out schools etc. But, our problem is BM. We don't want to just up and leave..Obviously after or if DH gets the relocation of SD approved through the courts. We want SD to be able to visit her family here and we want her to be able to come visit her mom, but we don't know how to work out the visitation schedule. It's very complex and difficult because BM currently has supervised EOW for 4 hours at a time and honestly, BM's mental state seems to be getting worse and on top of it, BM isn't getting any help or treatment and e don't see these supervised visits ever ending. How would we draft up a visitation plan for SD if BM has to have supervised visits????? We thought about working something out with SD's grandparets(BM's parents) so SD could at least see her grandparents and half siblings, but we can't trust that they will keep SD safe from BM. We can't make them supervise any visits or trust that they would.

We thought about just moving(after approval from judge) and work something out later once BM proves she has gotten help and is progressing. I jus don't know what to do. We really don't want to just take SD away completely, that doesn't seem right, but we can't allow SD to be a victim either. We've even thought about using a webcam so BM and SD can see and talk to each other unil BM shows progress.

Any ideas at all? I'm sooo lost.