Im 38 - no kids of my own. my fiance is 38 also - has a 16yo daughter that i LOVE!!!!! its the BM that has the issues with me.

fDH wants another kid. i can go either way. made it this far without a kid and i am happy. the topic is "on the table"

No bios here. My motto has always been, "no kids, no pets, and no live plants".

No bios. One SD12 with 50/50.

I'm 37 with no bio's. Always wanted them. Seems it just wasn't in the cards.

Not sure if I even count since SO and I aren't married (yet) but "SM" to SD2 3/4 and no kids yet!

No bios here either. I'm 45. DH and I have been married 5 years.

I've never wanted kids. I've known since I was 12. Why I married a man with a child just shows you how incredibly stupid I am.

No kids for me! I am 25 and we have my husband's children (SD6 and SS5) 100% of the time. BM lives across the country, pays absolutely nothing and has not seen them in almost a year at this point. She recently got an extreme DUI and will be serving jail time in the next 6 months, so who knows when the next time she sees them is. So sad. We got married 3 years ago and they have only been with her for a total of 4 months.

I may choose to have a child of my own in about 10 years or so but I work full time at a great career and I am working hard towards my education. I would like to have a graduate degree and be advanced in my career before I even think about having a child of my own, and frankly, at that point, what is the point? My skids will be practically out of the house, and it might be time to close that chapter in my life. Having my skids full time, even though they are really good kids has given me a preview for what having children really means, and frankly, it’s a lot of work for very little reward and I'm not sure if I am willing to go through all of this again with a child of my own, I really don’t see the point, I have never been one to dream of being a mother. For the time being, I fine with my skids, and my wonderful dog.

34 with no bios. Have been in my SS's life for 10 years. I am on my way out. Can't take the bullshit anymore.

I am almost 39, DH is 44. He has 3 adult brats-19, 20, and 23. They hate me, and they only want DH for money that he does not have. He stopped the money train, as he was going broke, and they just got worse. These 3 are like a bad reality show. If you saw their Facebook pages and heard the way they talk, you would be repulsed and disgusted.

I was married for 10 years to my ex, but we did not have kids. He lost a child (not in the way you would think) and I have a chronic illness, so we both decided not to have children. I did not want to be a mom that was too sick for her kids, as I never know what could happen with this illness.

DH does not want more kids. I cannot blame him.....He made the mistake of marrying a fruit loop who raised the kids to feel like they can do what they want, when they want. DH is very mellow and calm, and when he tried to instill boundaries, BM fought him constantly. BM has no compassion or morals/values. She is like a shell of a person, and all three kids are like this. It is horrible. My DH is extremely kind and affectionate, but the 4 of them abused him for years.

It was very hard for my DH to stop enabling, but it has been 18 months, and he is doing well. We were married this summer, and the skids did not come. I could not trust them, and DH was afraid they would cause a problem. I do not allow them in my home.

I also have a slight problem with my MIL. She is a nice lady, but her perspective is that if my DH buys stuff for the kids/gives in to them, they will one day, "wake up and love him." She says they need to find Jesus. I respect her opinion, but I do not see these "kids" changing ever, and I wish MIL would be quiet. She reads their Facebook pages (nonstop drama) and feels bad, which is exactly what they want. DH ignores her, I am running out of patience, but I am being good.

No kids either. Dh didn't want more and it turns out I couldn't have them either(even though it would have been nice to have one with him).

As far as being "punished" for not having bios, my mother and society take care of that all their own.

I'm 45 and DH is 50. He has SS 13 and SD 11.

I'm not all that interested in kids of my own, although I do adore my nieces and nephews. I also generally enjoy my friends' kids in small to moderate doses. But hey, they are cute and nice and kind and have manners and know how to entertain themselves.

I find DH's skids icky, and they are here with us EOWE. I always wonder if that's part of the problem, then I think to myself, "What were you thinking...NO WAY!!" LOL.

Oh, and BM is a real treat, too.

I'm 34 with no kids, but I do have 2 dogs & SS10 & SD8 who reside with us FT. There are 3 other teenage Skids that I hardly ever see. SO has brought up us having kids...I have decided that no, I do not want any. In ten years, I will be Skid free & loving it! Also, I don't want to bring any new kids into the picture of dysfunction with the older Skids...can you imagine?

BK: Mom? I have one brother & one sister, right?
Me: Ummm...no honey...
Bk: Huh?
Me: Well sweetie, daddy spawned with a redneck that turned out to be an evil hag and well, their daughters (your half sisters) are not good people...they hate mommy so we never see them.
BK: :?

See my problem?

I am fine with not spreading my genes...I'm busy enough dealing with Nasty's genes every damn day of the year.

I'm 30, and have no bio kids, my FDH had a vasectomy after his 3rd. He's said he would have it reversed to make me happy but is afraid it will just end up the same as his last two relationships (we have two BM's). I was never sure I wanted kids, so I'm just leaving it as it is right now, with the assumption we will never have kids. Besides, with SS5 in and out of the hospital constantly, I don't want the stress.
None of my friends understand as they are all having kids right now, it drives me crazy. I made the decision, I don't want to talk it to death with everyone.

Almost the same as Iron Rose
32, no bios. Husband is in early 40s. Married just over 6 yrs. Kids full time with us...SS20 (actually just moved out), SD18(senior in HS) and SD STB12. We used to have 40/60, then 50/50 with their mom. When the court gave us full custody a few years ago (after a battle that only lasted a year), their mom moved 2 states, over 800 miles and 1 time zone away. And it's been great! I love the kids (mostly, since they are teenagers) and we rarely deal with the mom now. They see her on school breaks; at least the youngest does, the older two have their own things going and visit sporatically.

I don't want kids, never really have, though I do wonder what will happen when I'm 60+ and hubs is 70+ (or dead) and I don't have anyone to care for me solely, since kids will have their own families and own mom to care for.

Always thought I'd adopt and get kids that way, but generally this is close enough for me. Husband has no desire for more kids...he gets more irked with his kids than I do. I think if I had wanted kids when we first got married, he'd have been fine with it, but now he's ready for all of them leave. He got married young, had kids young and I think is waiting to "live" again in a few years.

I'm 43 with no bios, two teen skids. I don't post much because I worry about BM finding me on here and making a bigger pest of herself than she already does. My FDH and I have talked about kids, and neither one of us is trying NOT to get preggers, but no luck. At my age, the risks of birth defects really starts to increase, and with our lives as challenging as they are right now I'm willing to accept God's wisdom if it's just not to be.

I'm 28 with no bios. Future step-mom to FSD7. FDH is 32 and we talk about children all the time...even have names picked out!! But I refuse to have his child until we're married. Which we're both hoping will happen in the next year. Trying to get debts paid down and money saved. Since it'll be his 2nd marriage and my first, I want us to pay for as much of the wedding as we can. The courthouse seems more and more flattering... I absolutely love FSD7. She's such a smart, mature, fun loving little girl! I feel lucky that I came into her life when I did (she had just turned 5). We've really bonded...to the point of her coming to me first before her dad. I wish she was mine. It would make things soooo much easier.

No biokids and after dealing with BF/BM/Skid drama chances are I will not be having children for at least another 7-10 years. (Unless BF and I split and I meet a guy with no kids, then probably in the next 3-5 years haha). And after dealing with SS3 and SS9 I pray to GOD I have a girl.

32, no bio kids. And after experiencing my fiance's daughter, I'm starting to wonder if I really want one. lol

No boi-kids, I'm 38 and DH is 45.

DH doesn't want any more and I've never wanted children.

~BettyRay

I'm 37, no bios. Never ever wanted them. DH is 40, and has SD16, born 3 days before my 21st birthday.

I even asked DH to get snipped four years ago, that's how certain I was. Then my dad died, and I got my head on straight and... I regret that decision. DH doesn't want them anyway, and would probably be the same passive father he is to SD16.

So I mourn and try to convince myself that I never wanted them anyway. It doesn't help when DH teases me about babysitting my future niece - why the FUCK would I want to babysit my sister's kid when I can't have one of my own? I burst into tears right there on the couch.

I have to admit though, it's just the biological clock going off. One of my dogs had a puking episode on Friday, which got me exasperated - kids are worse, for puke AND about destroying things. I wouldn't be able to pick up and go wherever I wanted, I wouldn't be able to sit on the couch and surf StepTalk, I wouldn't have time to do ANYTHING I like. It would limit my career.

27 with no bio kids!

We only have the skids part-time here (SD12, SS12 and SS6) so I'm still carefree and childless sometimes.

And to the "don't know if I count" comment above, you do. My "hubs" and I aren't legally married either. But I figure that since we're fully committed, living together and I'm playing an active role his his children's lives I can use the prefix step all I want. They were "my boyfriend's kids" when I first met them, but once I've grounded them, baked birthday cakes, slapped on bandaids and had heart-to-heart talks about feelings I am their stepmother regardless of whether we have the paperwork to make it official.

The jury's still out on whether there might be any biokids in the future. Having three kids already is a big financial consideration, to be honest. Hubs is on disability so even having his kids part-time our resources are pretty strained - a full-time baby might be more than we could responsibly handle. He's also a bit nervous about having another baby now that his kids are getting older. He's a few years older than me and honestly doesn't want to still be raising young kids (especially with his health) forever. For my part I'm still in my 20s and not 100% sure either way on having my own children, and it occasionally does bother me that MY decision to have children will be so heavily influenced by the fact that the man I love has already done so with a woman that I really wish wasn't a part of our lives. For now we've pretty much settled on the fact that if I do decide to try for a baby he would prefer that I do so in the next few years so his older kids aren't completely grown and he doesn't have to totally start over on the baby-raising clock (and so he isn't chasing toddlers well into his 50s). I can respect that, but it does put a bit of pressure on me to make the decision within his time-frame.