Horrible weekend
I've read enough on here to know my situation isn't the worst case, but it's mine and it's hard. I've begun to resent ss5 so much these last couple months. BM and MIL are having worse and worse impact on his behavior and I just can't stand to look at him anymore.
I feel like the worst most heartless person for feeling this way. I have children and DH felt that way about mine it would break my heart. Hardest thing for me is the seperate set of rules for SS. My bs11 gets in trouble or grounded when he miss behaves but ss6 get as quick "oh _________you know that's not right" slap on the hand for disrespectful behavior. I know there's an age difference but it's straining my relationship with my bs because it's not fair.
Ss is almost 6 and it's bad how am I going to live through the many years ahead? I was so upset this weekend I told DH I was thinking about leaving... of course that's not what I or he want but I hate our weekends with him because they are always ruined.
I'm horrible horrible step mom
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You are NOT, I repeat, NOT a
You are NOT, I repeat, NOT a horrible stepmom!
If your SS isn't going to be properly disciplined for his bad behavior, how can you NOT want to run away when he's there?
It isn't your fault for feeling the way you do. Quit beating yourself up for something you can't control.
It may be time for you to start disengaging from your SS...
I wish you the best of luck
I try to disengage but I
I try to disengage but I always get pulled back because he and my bs play together the whole time. Since DH is oblivious to things going on on my bs behalf he comes to me. I told DH today maybe I'll try to switch my weekends so my bs isn't there same weekends as ss so he can deal 100% with his son. Of course that means to child free weekend so he's a big NO on that. I told him then he needs to get a handle on things because it's hurting my relationship with my son and that's not fair.
I just never thought I'd feel so angry toward a child, but everytime I hear him or see how he manipulates already I see his mom in him and it makes me crazy! I know it's not his fault she is a horrid person and rubs that horrid personality of her's off on him, but I still resent it.
I can relate to feeling
I can relate to feeling resentment towards skid. My BF's son is 11 and in my opinion he is OLD ENOUGH to KNOW how to act and behave...PERIOD! Whether his mother is a piece of shit or not we as human beings have a choice and we also are equipped with common sense, it is just up to us to use it or not...
I know that alot of us SM's resent/dislike/hate our skids but eventhough it may be or is the dad/bm lack of parenting, disciplining, etc. that causes skids to be the way thery are there does come a point in time where it then becomes the skids turn to take accountability/respnsibility for their actions etc.
And in my case I believe...11 years old is definitely old enough to get your head out of your ass and stop being/acting like a whiney, bratty, sore loser, entitled, fucking prick!!!
DH and I talked, he said he
DH and I talked, he said he thinks since I resent ss and don't want him around because I suggested my kids and I doing our own thing on the weekends he is over so DH can focus on him that we should split up. I'm sorry but if ss never wants to go anywhere and DH doesn't want to deal with him if he makes him why the heck shouldn't I take my bs's without them? Yes I resent how our world is flipped upsidedown when he's there but I didn't choose it to be this way. I didn't spoil him. I didn't choose not to discipline. I am just trying to figure out how to make it through..