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CrazieCoconut86's picture

OK, for those of you who have read my blogs, you know that my DH's grandmother83 lives with us. Not my decision. I am married to him, I signed up for SM world with SS5, and apparently that also means having DH's entire family force GM on us.

GM insists on making comments about DH's parenting of SS5. This irks my nerves to no end. The second I have a baby and she tries to give me advice, she is in for a world of fucking hurt.

I believe that you lose your right to give any parently advice what-so-ever when you kick your 16 year old grandson and legally adopted son (aka DH) out of the house when he is 16 for no reason. The bitch made him homeless at 16 for reasons no body knows, and thinks that she has the right to tell DH how to parent. We have SS5 eowe. I make a pitcher of kool aid on Friday and that is what SS will drink when he is hear, unless he specifically asks for something else. If SS just asks for a drink, have some kool aid. Every Sunday morning when we are having breakfast(and I cook a big sunday breakfast with pancakes made from scratch, eggs, and sausage) this woman feels the need to make some comments as to why don't we give SS milk.

DH gets pissed every time. SS has a glass of kool aid in front of him. I know it isn't the most nutritious thing in the world, but we are on a tight budget and only having him EOWE, it won't kill him. DH throws down his utensils, storms off to the kitchen making comments about "well, I guess I will stop eating my breakfast because SS needs some milk. Nevermind that he has a drink in front of him." Well, GM starts saying more things, you should give him orange juice (we don't have any, she sees my Sunny D which I take to work with me every morning. That is mine, don't offer it to anyone, I will become mega bitch if I run out before the week is over. This is due to the fact that my brother would have friends over when we were teenagers and they would wipe out my supply. I am now very territorial with my food.) DH comes out of the kitchen with a glass of milk for SS and a glass of my sunny D. Both are still sitting on the table, along with SS's glass of kool aid. Why, because SS didn't want any of it. GM just had to be a pain in the ass, so DH did this to make her shut up.

Did this make her shut up... NO! it made her bitch even more because now SS has too much to drink. SS would have had too much to drink with just one of the two things that DH brought out... why? Because you dumbass, HE ALREADY HAD A DRINK! ugh... I hate my life sometimes. I have been trying to cope with this, as best as I can. I am thankful I will be taking classes this semester, so I will get an extra few hours out of the house.

Thank you for letting me vent. I really appreciate it. I can't say anything to DH because it just pisses him off that I can't stand GM. When in reality, neither can he.

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giveitago's picture

I would have threatened her home and wellbeing long ago! You live with us, dear, and it's our house rules...the kid gets coolaid and if he wants something else he asks! Ask her what's missing in her life that she feels it necessary to interfere with others? She might do some introspection? I said MIGHT! LOL

StickAFork's picture

Why are you giving a FIVE year old nothing but Kool Aid all weekend??? WATER is FREE. If you take the cost of KoolAid + all the damn sugar you put in it, have the kid drink water and buy a pint or quart of milk. It's like $2. The Kool aid has to cost more than that.
Sorry, I'm with GM on the breakfast thing.
Now, the fact that GM was a shitty mom doesn't change. And she isn't going to change. She's in her eighties.
But please, PLEASE, for the sake of SS, do right by him. Highly concentrated sugar water for days is NOT good for him...and can increase his likelihood of contracting juvenile diabetes.

StickAFork's picture

Not only that, but they HAVE milk and juice in the house, but that's for them.
They're actually withholding from the kid to take for themselves. :sick:
Sorry, when I became a parent, I realized that if I didn't have enough to buy for both my kid and myself, it went to MY KID first. I did without. Not him.
Oh, and I lived it. I was a broke-ass teen mom. Smile

CaptainD's picture

Not to mention all the cavities he will be getting from the sugar. Isn't Kool aid made with water? Don't add the sugar or koop aid.
What is your address? I will mail you $5.00. Buy the kid some milk and juice.

Disneyfan's picture

Grandma may be a pain in the ass, but she's right.

Kool aid for breakfast? If money is tight, make him drink water.

Princessoverit's picture

Frozen orange juice is cheap too. And sunny delight is full of nothing but crap too. If you don't spend the money on things better than kool- aide you will be spending it dental and medical bills later.

Grandma is a pain in the ass I am sure but kool- aid is not good either

CrazieCoconut86's picture

DH yells at GM all the time folks. It doesn't phase her in the slightest. And I said I know kool aid isn't the greatest. The kid loves it. And considering that SS says his mom is letting him drink soda and beer, I think Kool Aid is the least of our concerns. When SS is with us, we know that he is getting healthy meals. SS has every happy meal toy on earth from the past 3 years, because that is all him mother feeds him. He threw a fit yesterday because I wouldn't let him have soda. "But mommy lets me have it." I hate that. I told him I don't care that his mommy lets him have soda, when he is with daddy and me, no soda.

And grandma has been seen force feeding SS ice cream. Literally force feeding him ice cream and cookies. So, its not about that Kool Aid isn't good for him, its that it wasn't GM idea. I had to yell at her to leave SS alone, because he was clearly done. And if a 5 year old is turning down ice cream, you know he is full. GM isn't happy unless we are all unhappy. I think in a previous blog I said that she tells doctors she wants to be dead. She has given up on living, and misery loves company. This is why I didn't want her living with us to begin with. She knows how to make DH completley miserable. She has actually reduced DH to tears on more then one occasion. I am sure that made her day, seeing him cry.

StickAFork's picture

You have WAY too many f'n excuses.
BM is a shit parent? Ok, fine.
GM was a shit parent? Ok, fine.

That has absolutely nothing to do with the father/stepmother that you and your DH are... stop deflecting and look in the mirror.

CaptainD's picture

No Soda but lots of kool aid. Same thing pretty much minus the carbonation. Really.... I will mail you some money to buy this kid healthy drinks. Totally worth it to me.