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ITS OFFICIAL,I AM TAKING BACK CONTROL OF MY LIFE

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Submitted by Dee015 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 8:03am

I JUST ENDED THINGS WITH DH,AS FROM TODAY,THE WEDDING IS OFF,NO MORE RUDE BITCHES IN THE FORM OF SKIDS,ALL 4 OF THEM CAN GO TO HELL,TOGETHER WITH BM AND DH.I HAVE NEVER FELT SO GOOD IN ALMOST 3YEARS.WE HAVE DECIDED TO PUT THE HOUSE ON THE MARKET ,SO WE GET TO WALK AWAY FROM THIS HORRIBLE EXPERIENCE WITH OUR HEADS HELD UP HIGH.I AM FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHOOP WHOOP! I CAN GO HOME AND HAVE A GLASS OF WINE ,THANKS B TO GOD FOR PUTTING THINGS IN PERSPECTIVE FOR ME,AND FOR LETTING ME FIND THIS SITE,I TRULY BELIEVE READING ALL YOUR DILEMMAS ,IT MADE ME REALISE I DON'T WANT TO END UP LIKE THIS,STRESSED,RUDE STEP KIDS,SPINELESS HUBBY WHO DOES NOT KNOW HOW TO SAY NO TO HIS KIDS.Thanks to each and evryone of u,u made me see the light!!!!!!!

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Submitted by Dee015 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 8:26am

OMG Ladies n gents u have no idea,how light I am feeling,its like a ton of bricks has been lifted off my shoulders.Why i stuck it out for so long is beyond me! Wink Smile Biggrin

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Submitted by Dee015 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:17am

Thanks YankeeGirl,i had to really figure out what i wanted for myself,and having to fight with SKIDS while their daddy watches and does nothing about it,is definately not what i had in mind.Note to self : Neva try to fix sumthin thats broken,thez a reason y it broke.Jst throw it in the rubbish bin,forget about it and move on,you will get another if and when you need to.* A lesson learned*

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Submitted by dontcallmestepmom on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 8:52am

That is awesome! Best wishes for you! I was almost in the same situation,but my FDH woke up and stopped being their doormat. If he had not, I would have left.

You could not have spent your life at the whim of the skids. I would not have, either. These men need to realize that they can have a life, but at the same time, if they want their kids and/or BM to control their life, they need to just stay single.

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Submitted by Dee015 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:19am

I cudn't agree with u more DCMSM!!!!!!!!I just want to enjoy being single and bring the focus back on myself,do what makes me happy.MEN will follow if and when the time is right.Right now its just me,myself and my daughter ofkoz!

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Submitted by Jsmom on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:06am

Glad you got out....My life is good now with DH, but the hell SD and BM put me through, I wish I had someone had warned me after our first date........

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:19am

Much happiness and peace to you from now on. It is always liberating when we follow not just our hearts, but our minds.

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Submitted by Dee015 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:25am

At first he was being sarcstic about it but soon changed the tune,whe he realised I was not joking,but the cherry on top was when I left him in the parking lot ,swaying my hips from side to side while he watched my ass walking away!.That was so great!!!!!

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Submitted by LizzieA on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 10:49am

Haha! Let him have his daughters -- he doesn't know what to do with a real woman!

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Submitted by TASHA1983 on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 9:46am

That is awesome!!! I love hearing these stories!!! Congrats on finally saying enough is enough and living your life for YOU and YOUR happiness!!!

I wish you the best in life and in love...I hope you find a great, SKIDLESS man SOON!!!! Wink

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Submitted by Dee015 on Fri, 06/29/2012 - 1:23am

God has a way of solving things for us,don't worry yoself abt it,just ask him to guide you in dealing with thing,he will provide a solution !

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Submitted by anafiodorova on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 10:41am

CONGRATULATIONS! I left a week before we were supposed to sign a marriage license.I know how you feel! Six months later I think it is the best decision that I took in my entire 33 years of age.
It does get better- exercise helps, I did Zumba and being close to family and friends is essential to quick self- love and self- worth. Fill your heart with love for you and your closest friends and family and spread compassion and kindness for him because he seems to be clueless and lost soul.
Do not get involved with men who have children - they already have a family and it is not you!

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Submitted by Dee015 on Fri, 06/29/2012 - 1:29am

anafiodorova Thank you for yo wisdom,am definately on the same path of self discovery,went to yoga last night after 2yrs of absence coz FDH just did not like me goin there so i stopped.Last night i made apromise to focus on my self and doing the things I love,FDH DEINATELY IS A LOST SOUL,I think he shud self discover too,but he's not my problem anymore and Bottoms up for that! Am so looking forward to my first weekend without FDH,SKS AND ALL THEIR CRAP!!!!

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Submitted by Dee015 on Fri, 06/29/2012 - 1:25am

If it was not for Steptalk and all your stories i wud not hv had the courage to leave,Y'all rock and r my heroes!