Last night at bedtime ss10 comes to me, fighting back tears (he cries constantly over the littlest things). He says that he knows that he should have come to me sooner, but that Sd9 ruined xmas, his birthday, and Easter for him. He goes on to explain that SD has been snooping through our room to find the gifts and has been telling him everything that he will be getting, even though he's asked her to stop telling him. I thank him for letting me know and tell him that daddy and I will handle it.

Dh over hears our conversation, but couldn't really follow it, as SS was crying and very difficult to understand. So I repeat everything he told me. He immediately calls SD out to the living room, and hold up one finger. Asks her how many fingers am I holding up? (she can tell from his tone she's in deep trouble) one?.... Yeah, that's right one, and thats how many chances you have to tell me the truth, one.... Ok daddy (trying the innocent girl act) .... Dh has me repeat everything that SS told to me (since he got the story second hand and didn't want to get the details wrong and give her an out) and asks her if its true. She admits it, that she's been going through our drawers and closet, and she told him what he was getting. He asked her why, she then says that she did it because she wanted to ruin it for him.

Now, these gifts weren't left sitting out, or sloppily hid. She must have been doing so serious searching to find them. The Xmas gifts weren't even brought into the house until they were wrapped already. A lot of the gifts were ripped open, or had tape pulled off Xmas eve when i went to put them under the tree. I thought it was odd, but just assumed it was the cats messing with the paper, and maybe I didn't press the tape down enough. But apparently the little a-hole was unwrapping them to see what I had bought.

Dh looked completely at a loss for words. He looked at me and asked what he should do. I looked right at SD and said .... I don't know what you are going to do but ill tell you what I am going to do. SD, you aren't getting anything from me for your birthday (she turns 9 in two weeks) I can't speak for what your father will do, but do not expect a single gift from me, if this is how disrespectful you are going to be when I buy things for you kids. Dh didn't say much more to her other than telling her that she had better not ever step foot in our bedroom again, and sent her to bed.

Later that night he asks me, so what are we really doing for sd's birthday?..... Just as I told her, *i* am not doing anything, what you do is your own decision...... Because of what she did, or just because?..... Because of what she did..... Ok.....what if she had found your gun while she was snooping through our room? What if she decided to take it to school? Or grab a handful of bullets to take and show her friends, or if she has stumbled onto my vibrators? Or your medicatons? She has absolutely no business going through our things like that....... Yeah, I agree.

Sidenote: The gun is in a case, unloaded, and has a trigger lock on it. So she couldn't have actually gotten hurt with it, or hurt someone else with it.

But I am dead serious. This kid is ass out come her bday. Dunno if Dh is still going to back me up when the time comes, or if he will go out and buy her a ton of stuff (usually I do all the bday shopping) but I am not getting her a single thing.