Well, my FIL just passed away; he was never very vocal about BM when I was around him. My MIL, now there's an outspoken woman. She thinks BM is a trifling whore (BM cheated with multiple multiple men during their marriage) and CANNOT stand the woman. She'll play nice in front of the skids but when they aren't around she lets her true opinions fly. DH says she likes me.... I hope he's right. None of my other IL's ever talk about BM.

FIL always hated BM and MIL tolerated her because "she made DH happy". Then once the split she was civil to BM because of the kids and because BM had most of the control for plan making.

Once BM sued DH for full custody, the gloves came off and MIL took the stand and said some very unflattering things about BM in front of the judge. Needless to say, they don't speak anymore.

All three SIL's hate her guts and don't pretend. BM tried to friend the nicest of the SIL's on FB and SIL let her have it in private message and basically told her to get sprung.

Had to chime in on this one because it drives me insane, in fact I was even bitching about it this morning.

MIL was very nice to me the first 7 mo of mine and DH's relationship. At any given opportunity she would tell me how glad she was DH found someone who truly loved and cared about him like me, treated him well, treated the kids well, etc. She also would tell me how thankful she was that DH was no longer under BM's thumb and wasnt letting her control his life anymore like he did before me.

FF to now, you can't tell where BM stops and MIL begins. They have each other listed as "mother" and "Daughter" on FB. (I know, I know, its just FB, but its a respect thing) She invites her to all family gatherings. (I REFUSE TO ATTEND) When BM attacked me on FB a few weeks ago, she sided w/BM about how "what goes around comes around" and accused me of being jealous of the SD's. Its a neverending saga. It drives me insane.

Yesterday was my birthday. MIL didnt call, post, text, nothing to me about my bd. That fact doesn't really bother me, its the disrespect she shows her own son. A few hrs ago I flat asked him if he thought she was a hypocrite. He said yes, very much. I've cut her out of my life along w SIL bc she acts the same way. The only person I tt is FIL and thats rare.

When I met my MIL - I benefited from what my DH calls the "Myra Hindley Effect". To those of you in the USA, Myra Hindley is the British equivalent to Lizzie Borden, I suppose. She was a notorious child killer. WHat DH was saying, was that he could have taken Myra home to meet mum, and she would have been so glad it was not NPD BM, that she would have welcomed her with open arms.
MIL loved me for the first few years. Then the cracks started to appear, and although I have not done things any different, I believe that MIL probably now feels about me the same as she felt about BM. Bit of a fruitcake, my MIL. Never mind. Didn't get on with my first MIL (exDH's mum) either. Glad to say I have broken the cycle and get on great with my SILs.

My MIL loves me and hates the BM. She tried to make plans with the skids numerous times and BM would just not show up or cancel at the last minute (sounds like DH's visitation too!!).

MIL said that I am the best thing that ever happened to DH and that I saved his life from the road he was going down with BM.

DH's stepdad is kind of scared of her because of her episodes of crazy, surrounded by periods of seeming sanity.

Dh's entire family despises bm. About a year into me and DH dating, MIL told me that she wants bm to get hit by a truck. A big truck. Then explained that she hoped the truck drive backed up on her. She was dead serious. I suggested that maybe she could just move someplace far away like Hawaii. MIL told me that Alaska would be fine, but she wouldnt want her to move to hawaii because she wouldnt wish that on the poor people of Hawaii. I dont like the chick. MIL wants her dead.

MIL and I have no relationship whatsoever. 11-1/2 years ago, she told me she was so happy her son had met a good woman who likes to cook & clean and would take good care of him. Fast forward to now and MIL and BM are attached at the hip. BM gets invited to all family events and DH and I are not included. We haven't spoken to ANY of the in laws for over 15 months. I personally am much happier without them in our lives.

There's a little thing called "the truth will out." BM never had a chance to get MIL on her side, and believe me she did try, because she can't hold the crazy in long enough.

When DH and I first met, MIL was reluctant to get to know me because I don't think she believed I was going to stick around. DH was only married to BM for 1.5 years then married another woman and they were divorced within a year. So MIL was a bit gun shy. But, as soon as she figured out I was sticking around, she loved me.

MIL did try to still get along with BM for SD's sake. She even, on a visit to us, spent an overnight at BM's house because SD had been asking. I think that sealed the deal. MIL had to be around BM and BM's mom and listen to them badmouth DH and me. She still to this day, and that was nearly 10 years ago, tells me about what they said and did during this visit with indignation. MIL tried to stand up for me and DH but BM and her mom are just so full of themselves they wouldn't listen. MIL now has NO respect for BM.

MIL loves me however.