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Submitted by MichellXO on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 12:30pm

You know what infuriates me sometimes? The fact that my BF has told me several times that his first son was a trap by BM. To tie him down to her. That he had plans to move away from her to go to a new job etc. So they were over. Really? Seriously? Are you dumb BF? If you would have been smart enough to keep your shit wrapped, you wouldn't of had to stay with her because of a child, stay with her, and have ANOTHER child, KNOWING you two were NOT going to make it as a couple, and then finding out 10 years later that she has been cheating on you with a couple of different guys. REALLY? You know what? It's your fault you got yourself in this! You bitch and complain that you have to deal with this bitch, and yet you got yourself in this situation because you decided it was smart to share your stupid sperm! TWICE! Bunch of dumb men there are in this world. I love him to death, but OH MY GOD, how stupid are these dads sometimes.

I just had to get that out. I feel a bit better now.

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Submitted by CrazieCoconut86 on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 12:35pm

I understand where you are coming from. My DH now insists that we use a condom. BM told him she was on birth control, so he didn't wrap his shit. Now he has a 5 year old son. I am on BC, we are married, but he says until we decide we are truly ready for a baby, he is wearing a condom.

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Submitted by MichellXO on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 12:49pm

OMG! My BF says the same. He was never married to her, so with even more of a reason he SHOULD HAVE wrapped it. But with me... OH NO! WE HAVE TO WEAR A CONDOM! God forbid. The guy knew he would never marry her, and yet he talks about marriage with me and a life with me, but still gotta wear a condom lol

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Submitted by MichellXO on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 4:52pm

I do sometimes try and think of it that way. But sometimes it gets the best of me. Like when all the drama starts happening, or when the kids are brats (which is 99% of the time), or when BM calls to talk to him about nothing. It's irritating. I'm still a bit new to this. Only a year in, and I feel so many emotions inside.

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Submitted by Willow2010 on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 12:41pm

I am on BC, we are married, but he says until we decide we are truly ready for a baby, he is wearing a condom.
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WOOOOW! He really must not trust you at all!

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Submitted by majka on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 12:53pm

Yeah, I agree 150%... and its SO FREAKING SAD how he wants to wait to have a baby (We have been married 3, together 6) and how its just "not the right time"... yeah, well it was the right time to not wear a condom with her, a total fling, but not me.

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Submitted by MichellXO on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 1:08pm

I know! I truly really want to have a baby.
BF even told me one time, he said to me "I wish I would have had my two children with you, and not with her". Yeah well... I know you didn't know me back then, but... if you would of used your brain, knowing you were going to a new job, knowing you didn't wanna be with her, why did you do what you did. It's called stupidity, and thinking with your d*ck. It was careless. Now I have to suffer the consequences because he already has 2 kids Sad It sucks.

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 1:12pm

"I wish I would have had my two children with you, and not with her".

EXACTLY what my DH says... that he loves his kids, but wishes that I was their mother and that he never met their POS BM's. Yeah, well me too. But unfortunately you were the fracking idiot who had to sleep with trash and then be an even huger (is that a word?) idiot by not wearing a condom.

Lay down with dogs and you're bound to get up with fleas....

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 1:06pm

Ok, so my DH is even more lacking in the brains department (and condom department)! How did he not learn after the first time?? I have no idea. BM#1 was just a skanky piece of ass, who he never even took to Burger King, much less considered "dating" (so why would you trust someone like that when they say they are on the pill??) and BM#2 was a jealous, psycho, stalker bitch, who DH was always trying to break up with, (but then she would stalk him and harass and hound him and he'd go back like an idiot) AND she already had a son with another guy who wanted nothing to do with her (so why would you trust someone like that when they say they are on the pill?)

I really try not to be judgmental of DHs past sins since I was no angel... but DAMN!I seriously HATE.HATE.HATE that 20 something DH for being such a freeking mamby, pamby, brainless, jackwagon. If only I could have met him 20 years ago and saved ALL of us from this non-stop drama-go-round.....

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Submitted by imjustthemaid on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 2:10pm

My DH used the stalker line on me. He said BM stalked him and wouldn't leave him alone but somehow they dated for 5 years. When he broke up with her she stalked him. So then he had sex with her?? It just doesn't make sense to me. I just don't even bring it up to him anymore because whats done is done and I am stuck with the freakin kid while BM is off being a whore and he is at work all day!!

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Submitted by MichellXO on Fri, 03/23/2012 - 4:57pm

I get stuck with the kids while he's at work too. I see his kids more than he does, and that frustrates him, but it's not my fault. I don't really understand why I have to have them while he's at work. What's the point? He's not getting time with them? I feel like a baby sitter sometimes.