In a nutshell, SS came Thursday night to "get away from the drama". 20 minutes after we picked him up, SD texted DH's phone asking for SS to "call the house because some shit started". Shit ended up being drama between his 15-year old live-in & his gf that lives across the country in California. By his word, his live-in is "controlling" when it comes to his phone & she "wouldn't let" him bring it with him to our house. Apparently, her & Cali got into a texting war, & that was the shit that started.

SS got texts from BM, SD, & live-in all weekend on DH's phone. DH was getting pissed. SS got tired of it quickly & endeed up ignoring all of them claiming he just needs a break from the drama. DH reminded him that he's the one creating the drama by being involved with 2 different girls. Uh...YOU make it, YOU deal with it. You don't get weekend breaks from it.

BM texted DH's cell all day Friday about SS being sick & she wanted to talk to him (SS). DH told SS & SS chose not to call. He didn't want to talk to her. Whatever.

SSwas sneezing & had a runny nose. He asked for cough drops, so I gave him the bag we had along with some NyQuil.

Saturday morning DH woke up to this slew of texts from BM:
-dh ss has been running a fever 4 2 days make sure he taks motrin b4 he goes 2 bed tell him i love him

-dh i no ss iz rly sick im sick & sd iz 2 so u need to have him home early so i can take us 2 dr

-y r u ignoring me....? tell ss 2 call me r text me

-dh quit being a selfish asshole i need 2 no if he iz still running a fever i knew he should have stayed home dh...!!!!!!

-LEARN HOW TO TEXT ASSHOLE....!!!!

So, SS was still asleep when DH saw these messages, & he was pissed. He handed me his phone & told me to text her back (he's new to texting & his fingers are fat enough, it's just that much more frustrating for him. LOL!) to quit being a fucking bitch & not to text him again until she could be decent. I handed it back to him & reminded him that anything sent would be shown to SD. I wasn't getting involved.

He took it back & went outside. I heard his fingers typing each letter. It took him almost 15 minutes but he figured it out. He sent:

"Learn how to be nice. Doesn't it suck to be so nasty all the time? Don't text me again".

He came back in the house, turned his phone off & put it back on the charger. It went untouched the rest of the day.

Apparently BM called the house phone to tell SS on DH. SS came out of his room after he got off the phone & asked DH if she'd called that morning. DH said no. SS asked if she'd texted him & DH said yes. SS asked what he texted back to her & DH told him exactly what he said. SS asked if next time she sent something like that to just let him know so he could handle it. DH simply told him it wasn't his to handle...that DH is perfectly capable of handling his own business. SS said he understood DH being mad but that he didn't want anymore anger between DH & BM than is already there. My thought...get over it. Do your thing & let others do their own.

Sunday morning BM's mom called the house phone. Her name didn't come up. It just said, "out of area". I answered & she asked if SS was still running a fever. I told her I didn't know. I told her he'd been sucking on cough drops & taking NyQuil but aside from basic cold symptoms he seemed fine. He was enjoying his weekend with his dad & hadn't really said much about not feeling good.

She said something about how she understands he's 18 & all but she knows from experience with her step-daughter, how difficult it is for me trying to get a teenager to communicate his feelings about being sick. WTF??? He was communicating fine. He asked for cough drops. I gave them to him. He needed kleenex, I gave them to him. I offered him NyQuil & he took it. Evidently she meant that I needed to coddle him, perhaps more than I realized. Apparently I should've hauled him in to the ER for his cold. Whatever.

She asked me to have him call her when he got up. I did, & he did. They made arrangements for pick-up later that evening.

When we left the house, DH turned his phone back on. This next barrage of texts came rolling through:

-i will text u n e time my son iz w/ u especially when ss is sick so us hae ss call home so i can get him 2 dr i expect a call & i expect it SOON

-and who iz being nasty telling me 2 never text u again...??????wth is that DH r i c this is jealous stormabruin maybe? i want ss 2 call me now

-besides u have always told me 2 call u about n e thing and i could b nasty but im not....!!!!! i no dh would have never sent me a text like tht

-1 more thing miss stormabruin dont u ever send me a text like that again what r u so insacure u already stole the luv of my life what more do u want

-now plz have our son call me dh

DH tossed his phone to SS & said, "There you go son. You wanna handle that one?" SS read it, put the phone down & didn't say anything else about it. LOL! DH's last words to him on the topic were "See SS, ALL of this could've been avoided if you'd have just brought YOUR phone".

I was glad he let him read it. I was glad that he was aware that DH sent the message so it would be clear how whacked BM is in her stupid fucking head.

I didn't read the messages she sent until after we dropped SS off with BM's mom. I was beside myself. By no means is that the first time she's falsely accused me or berated me, but it is the first time she's ever addressed me with it directly (well, as directly as text can be). I wasn't pissed off about it, because it's exactly the kind of crazy I've learned to expect from her. I was glad SS saw it. DH was miffed by it, but I just laughed.

What fool puts something like that in writing...especially not knowing who it came from??? Even if you suspect, you don't accuse like that without knowing for sure.

DH was a little irritated with the humor I found in it, but I explained, here she's tried so hard to convince everyone around her that DH is this big angry violent abusive man who's ruined her world, & now he's the love of her life??? 1) She sent him a load of crappy text messages, why would it be so inconceivable that he'd send something shitty back? 2) Having been in abusive relationships, I feel it's safe to say that an abused woman will never acknowledge her abuser as "the love of her life" & an abused woman will never be pissed at another woman for "taking" her abuser out of her life. 3)I don't have anything she didn't choose to walk away from...4 times. The last time she left was in 1999 & SHE was the one who filed the final set of divorce papers. I didn't meet him until 2001 & she was nowhere to be found. There was no "stealing" to be done. He isn't with me because I stole him. He's with me because he CHOSE me. 4) It's been 13 years you vile bitch. Turn the fucking page already!!!