So I do alot of me and my boys days..I take my boys alot of places but in the 5 years I have been with DH I have never taken a SD day without my boys...Well things have been going very well since all our drama 2 weeks ago and SD is getting closer and closer to me....So I decided (when my friends changed plans for tonight) to see if she would like a night of dinner at a very fancy place and shopping afterwards (I am taking BS14 away in April and he needs bathing suits) so I offered it to SD (BS14 is with BF this weekend)...Well she was so excited she said yes right away. So I am taking her for dinner and then shopping...DH is thrilled at the change in our home....

My problem....DH has let me take over everything....SD16 has not gone with BM in awhile, mostly because she almost killed her 2 weeks ago....She did go for dinner last week but came back after that. DH, I feel, is taking advantage of this and i am not happy about that. I did talk to him and that did not turn out well. We had a fight because he said first your not happy about SD now your not happy with me make up my mind....Well DH its not make up my mind its yes things are going much better but you have allowed me to take over the drama, actually let it not happen and put life back together should that not be your job, this is your daughter...So BM pays no attention to SD now DH is paying no attention to SD...yes i am but I am just SM...Also since all that shit happened 2 weeks ago DH still has not called the therapist so SD can go talk this out with her. (BM was supposed to take her 3 weks ago and forgot) (DH has never rescheduled apt) She did talk to me on our walks and she is hurt by what BM did...I mean her mother could of really harmed her and he is just not addressing this at all....Not sure if I should leave it alone and just thank god my house is on its way to being normal or i should make this a big deal and have DH do something....A little confused on this whole issue....Maybe i should just thank my lucky stars this happened and move forward since it is making my life a hell of alot easier....What do you think?