I'm fairly new, and this is also my first blog. I would like some advice on my situation.
I'm 24 years old and live with my boyfriend who is 32 years old. He has 2 kids. A boy who is 5 and a girl who is 2. I've been with him for what would be 10 months this month of Feb. Let me start by saying this... I don't have any kids of my own, and I have never been with someone who has kids. We got into an argument by text because he is at work. He asked if I could take care of the kids on March 4th (which is a Sunday). I said "Not if I'm doing her the favor". He replies back by saying "Whatever...", and here comes his angry messages. Saying that he doesn't know if this is going to work out because I should be integrated with the kids enough to love them as my own. That he's tired of having the "She doesn't have kids so she doesn't understand" goggles on (so to speak), and he's gonna take them off to see the real reality. That he has his kids and his kids mom to deal with, and that he shouldn't have to be dealing with this type of stuff with me. That I look disinterested when we all go out, and the only time I act like we're a couple is when we're alone without the kids.

I have taken care of those kids every time that they have needed me (as if I was a baby sitter). I drive 2 hours (there and back) to get those kids from school to our house 2 days out of the week. In my opinion, I take better care of those kids than their own mother (which he agrees with). So this one time that I say no to just one day, and all hell breaks loose... is making me confused.

I admit, sometimes I'm not completely happy when they are here. I do get moody and a bit annoyed, and he sees that. But, I don't think he's being rational about things. I told him I will never love those kids like my own, because they are NOT my own. He doesn't seem to realize that. His kids are also a bit hard to love. They need CONSTANT discipline. Every time they're with us, my boyfriend yells at them and or spanks them because of their rowdy behavior and they don't listen. All of this takes a toll on me. Those kids have no structure. He also has the guilty dad syndrome.

I'm completely in love with this man. I know he is the man I want to marry. But, I feel that he needs to be a bit more understanding of me. I don't know who else to turn to, so I'm writing to you guys for advice. Maybe I have to change? Or maybe he needs to. Let me know girls.