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Submitted by pamff on Sat, 01/28/2012 - 6:31pm

Thank goodness I found you, I thought I was the only person in the world who felt like I did about raising stepchildren. Wish I'd have found you all a few years ago. I love your thoughts on stepdaughter weddings, have one coming up in November and already the bridezilla has reared her ugly head (what makes them soooo selfish??). I look forward to hearing how you coped with the preparations and the day itself. Pam xx

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Submitted by pamff on Sat, 01/28/2012 - 9:12pm

Thanks ripley, will check Stepmonster out. I wish you well with your little ones, in the words of Gloria Gaynor "I will survive" !! Hang on to that thought.

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Sat, 01/28/2012 - 10:34pm

step weddings...we had one of those hellish things last year. Have a plan. Like if one of the skids is rude know what to say, know what your SO will do. explain to your SO what you expect of him and what you'll do if he doesn't follow through. In my case we talked about what we'd do and how long we would stay. We followed the plan to a "T" and we still fought when we got home bc he didnt like the plan after agreeing to it more than once. (we discussed it long bfore the day, week of the day, and on the way there). It did a lot of damagage to our socail life and my trust in his communication, but we are still together.
I have 4 adult skids so if you any questions feel free to message me.
Good luck

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Submitted by pamff on Sat, 01/28/2012 - 10:49pm

Thank you so much for your reply dodgegal05. I like the idea of a plan, will think about that for a while and discuss it with DH. I do hope all is better in your household now. These big family events cause so much stress its a wonder we survive them !! This event will be the first of 3 - 2 x SD and 1 x SS so what I learn now will help with the next 2. I have considered giving SD 1 the money to elope but she is having nothing to do with that . Smile Take Care, Pam

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Submitted by dodgegal05 on Sun, 01/29/2012 - 1:41am

No problem. Glad I could/can help. What kind of relationship do you have with the SD when she's not a bridezilla? I had a pretty good relatioship with the skid at the wedding and we discussed the plan with the skid and why we had one. The skid sees how the other skids (siblings) acts towards me so it was okay with the skid. If it had been one of the skids i didnt have any relationship or not a good relationship with I probably would not go. And if I did there would be a plan and if there was an ensuing fight it'd be over (especially if SO agrees to it).

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Mon, 01/30/2012 - 1:35pm

Welcome, Pam! I'm prepping for the first step-wedding, too. This is for SD23, the only one I actually like. Just yesterday we were looking at dresses and decorations online. Today I was going to order stuff for pew markers and chair sashes, and then had to stop myself. I guess I had better find out what BM's involvement is going to be first, eh? I'd pretty much forgotten all about her, and I don't want to overstep. I'm also not excited about SO pushing the other skids' involvement. Why does he seem so insistant that she make them participants rather than guests?