Why does SD treat her father like an ATM??
Because he allows it that's why!!! I have had it with the damm guilty spending he wants to do all the time. Her mom is a POS who doesn't spend a dime of the CS she gets on SD. She just tells her "ask your dad" which in turn means ask me!! So BM drops the ball and we have to pick up the slack so SD doesn't miss out.
When SD left to go to her mothers last week she asked BF why he didn't buy her halloween costume while she was home. He said your mother is buying it this year. Now SD is 12 which is a little old for a costume but oh well. I took her last year and got everything she needed spent about 75.00. So this year her mother can do it right?? Oh no she comes home last night and immediately asks me when are we getting my costume?? I said your dad talked to you about that last week it is your moms turn this year to get it. She says to me no he didnt say anything and besides I need it here for the dance on Friday. Well I send her off to talk to her dad about it. He tells her the same thing I did and SD is all upset because her mom said that she didn't have any money to buy her a costume. She gets 1700.00 a month but she can't buy her a damm costume :? Geez I am so irritated by that POS woman she plays MOTY and then fails to do her part every time. This happens all the time. Costumes, activities, etc.etc. any time BM has to pony up some cash for something she sends SD to "ask your dad" drives me crazy!!!
So now in addition to the costume she also requires stuff for spirit week. Every day is a dress up day. Mon was crazy hair and pajama day, today was crazy sock day Wed is decade day Thurs is twin day and Friday they can wear their costume. So SD asks very matter of factly when are we going shopping to get me the stuff I need :jawdrop: First of all I say you should have told us about this a long time ago SD responds with I just found out on Friday. So now she expects all this stuff right now!!
We both work full time get home late and then she wants us to go shopping to get all this stuff. No way in hell!! I made do with stuff we have on hand and she will just have to deal with it. She is also super picky beyond anything I have ever experienced. A simple item like a blue tank top would take all day long for her to find the right one!!! The thought of taking this child shopping for all the spirit stuff and a costume NO WAY!!! Let alone the fact that she thinks her dad is an endless supply of money. He can't afford to do everything for her and pay her mom astronomical CS every month. It is just crazy!!!
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Ah yes. SD15 tried on a
Ah yes.
SD15 tried on a costume while with her mom a few weeks ago. SD asks her mom if she can get it. Mom says no, your dad can get it.
BM signed SS12 up for football. SS needed new cleats. She said no, you have some (too small). SS asked dad. They sometimes don't even ask their mom. They just go straight to dad. They know he says yes, mom says no. BM isn't totally evil, dad spoils them. They expect too much, but if you sign your son up for sports and he says his shoes are not fitting, that is wrong.
My SO is an ATM too. BM doesn't buy school clothes and just last week he bough SD makeup. Weird. Luckily SO has gotten some sense about him lately. SD asked for a new cell phone and a car the other day, he said no. Shocking!
BM does the same thing here.
BM does the same thing here. She gets A LOT of CS but can't buy shoes, winter coats, school supplies, lunch money, etc for SSs. The boys will be with her this Holloween (first time in FIVE years). DH and I decided that we would not buy costumes this year. The boys have asked and were told no.
Drives me batty!! I swear
Drives me batty!! I swear the BM in my case lives in her one little world of delusion. Where BF is the bad parent I am a horrible influence and she is the victim of it all. Poor little BM who cheated,lied,stole,disgraced the marriage and now she is the victim. Poor little thing that lives off CS doesn't have a job and should not have to put a single cent towards SD's needs. Heavens no she is a poor single mother trying to make it in the world. She can't afford the nice things that BF and I can afford poor little thing :sick:
Same here with BM. She gets a
Same here with BM. She gets a fat check every month but doesn't spend a penny on the kid. Everytime the kid needs something she has her call my DH. This weekend SD tells me she needed a new pair of Uggs, because the ones we bought her don't fit anymore. I asked why her mom couldn't buy them, she replied "she's buying me a coat." I told her I'd get her boots but I wasn't buying Uggs. I explained the only reason we got them the first time was because my son worked at the store and got us 50% off, so I ended up paying 60.00 for a pair of 120.00 boots. I went online and got her a great pair of boots for 45.00. I assume we'll get the call from the mother bitching & moaning why we didn't get the Uggs, but she can go kick rocks. SD11 also tells my DH this weekend that she needed new pens for school. Of course, DH went on a hunt for these special pens, which he didn't find. He gets home, opens the kitchen drawer and says "Hey, where'd this pen come from? These are the pens SD wants." I said "I bring them from work. She already has 3 of them in her back pack why does she need more?" He just shook his head because he got bamboozled by his little princess. Whenever I tell her to ask her mom because her mom gets child support her reply is usually, "Yeah, but she had to pay the rent this week. Or she had to pay the light bill." If I can help it, I don't let DH buy her anything. I bought the boots because I knew that if she asked her dad, he'd get her the Uggs. So I beat him to the punch and got her what she needed NOT what she wanted.
Girls learn their behavior
Girls learn their behavior from their mothers, boys from their fathers. Every psychologist will tell you that. Yes, if BM thinks men or at least YOUR DH is an ATM, so will the SD...Thankfully, my DH woke up and has said no at least for the last 2 yrs to his loser kid. Last time he gave her 20USD I almost divorced him. :sick: