Well, tonight I think I finally grew a pair of "cahones"!! SD is out of town visiting family and so I decided to take to opportunity to speak with "D"H. I told him that it wasn't fair that he never asks me IF I can schedule appointments or take SD to them or fix whatever it is SD needs; that he simply ASSumes I am able to do it all. I told him that I work too and that it isn't easy for me to get out of work ALL the time to be taking HIS child to all the appointments he expects me set for her.

Backtracking a bit *how the convo started* This morning he said "I'd prefer YOU take SD to her check-up, since they may talk about girl stuff!!" A few weeks ago I would've said, "ok, I guess I"ll take her", but NOT TODAY!!! hehe! I told him that it would be nice if he asked me instead of telling what he prefers,

DH: I did ask
Me: no, you said you'd PREFER me take her!
DH: that IS asking!! *getting annoyed*
Me: uummm, no it isn't! You are telling me what YOU PREFER which is basically telling me I
don't have a choice. Asking entails getting my opinion on the matter!
DH: *annoyed* Well, WILL you PLEASE take her???
Me: I don't know, I will have to check to see if I have any meetings schedules at work!
DH: I don't know why you are making this so difficult?! :O
Me: Because I AM the ONLY that takes her to all her appointments, and I AM the ONLY one that
that schedules ALL YOURS, HERS, BS's appointments!! and I am tired. I have to work too and
I cannot be asking off all the time! SHE IS YOUR kid, and I think you need to step up!
DH: *no longer annoyed, but upset* FINE, I guess I WILL HAVE to ask off MY JOB and TAKE her!! I
don't know why you are being a total bitch!
Me: I am being a BITCH because you are being a A$$hole!! I think that if you would say "thank
you" or "please" ever once in a while I wouldn't feel so used by you! You think that I have
all the time in the world to do EVERYTHING for you and YOUR kid! I don't think it's fair!
DH: *surprisingly her calms down* I'm sorry, I didn't realize! soo, will you PLEASE take her to
the DR.'s appointment?
Me: I don't know, I will let you know as the time for the appointment gets closer!
DH: FINE! let me know!

:jawdrop: I was floored!! I got a high after this, I couldn't believe that I actually said something! He was pissy, but got over it after a while. I am hoping this will help him realize that I will NOT be doing everything for everyone ALL the time. The night ended well DH, BS, & I went out for ice cream and we didn't argue for the rest of the night. What I am afraid off is that I may just cave and take SD to the appointment.