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Submitted by Anywho78 on Mon, 08/15/2011 - 1:28pm

SS8 has been busted not once, not twice but THREE times in 2 days lying over the stupidest of things!

Yesterday, SO just told him off but didn’t punish him…these things happen, I know. By the time today’s lies rolled around, I had had it.

Poor SO tries to give SS the benefit of the doubt & doesn’t like it when I question SS on the truthfulness of his statements…SO tends to get irate with me for not believing him. We ended up in ANOTHER argument over it & he apologized profusely when it was found that SS was indeed lying (shocker, I know!!). SS is now in mountains of trouble due to his inability to tell the truth!

I had asked in a previous blog about washing mouths out with soap & someone suggested vinegar…well…that idea’s down the blinking toilet! Having no clue about what I was thinking I gave SS a taste of vinegar…HE TOLD ME IT WAS YUMMY!!!

SO has SS doing extra chores today & he’s off of electronics…UGH what must we do to get SS to tell the truth (or at least believable lies)???

Any other ideas on what we can do to promote truthfulness?? Any ideas are welcome!!

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Submitted by Sonomama30 on Mon, 08/15/2011 - 3:40pm

i actually use a "chore chart" on it is not tatteling and no story telling ( a.k.a. lies) who ever has the most stickers and gets there boxes filled a the end of the week get 5$,, it works for me.

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Submitted by gtrmom on Mon, 08/15/2011 - 8:06pm

SD10 used to lie all the time when she first came to us, about the stupidest things too. This is one of the many things that just made me recent her. I would ask her if she brushed her teeth, when I checked her toothbrush it was bone dry! I asked, who ate the piece of candy on the counter... "It wasn't me!" but I found the wrapper in her pants when I did the wash later that evening. Things like that, after a while of her lying to me about her not getting out the house (during the day), or watching tv (we have Showtime and HBO) after bed time, and sneaking coins out of my purse, and me looking like an idiot in front of DH because when he asked it was a "I didn't do that daddyyyyy!" with her sad puppy eyes.

I took away things from her, she was not allowed to drink anything but water... lol, I know this may sound extreme, but water is healthier!, I didn't allow her to watch any television while the rest of us did, and I took away any toys she would play with. She gave me major attitude for a while, I think this is when the resentful feelings started to subside, but I was ok with that I only took more things from her.

I sat her down one day, just she and I, and I told her that if she wanted to be trusted and wanted to have privileges then she needed to be truthful with me. I told her that respect was a two way street, I didn't expect her to respect me if I didn't respect her and vice versa. I said to her that she wanted for me to be nice, then she had to do the same. The first time I asked her who did something and she said the truth she was allowed to drink Kool-Aid or lemonade like the rest of us. Little by little she started to receive her things back. She now knows that I am serious about taking everything away. She likes her sweets, so it was hard for her to see the rest of us drinking something other than water.