My boyfriend's mom feels the same way, yet she won't let his evil adult children in her home because of their disrespect. They also scare her bc they have absolutely no compassion or kindness.

In this woman's mind, blood is thicker than water. She even told me that they must be the only beneficiaries on his insurance policy, death benefits, etc., (even though they treat him horribly and continue to get worse, and would probably blow the money on drugs and God knows what else). I do not understand it, I never will.

You should tell her you know that that does not apply-I mean you sure as hell dont love MIL, right so why would you love his spawn?

I too love the hipocrisy. BM's mother is married to a man who has MANY kids (more than 10), but only two (his youngest, I believe) with BM's mother. BM's mother will say that his "other" kids are "nothing to her." And yet she was the first one to get all up in arms and in my DH's face when she didn't think I was treating her precious baby granddaughter (SD8 and up) the way BM' mother thought I should (you know, give her everything she wants, cater to her every need, never discipline her, etc.). Look in the mirror, woman!