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why is it so hard to talk with me first???

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Submitted by sweetthing on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 12:05pm

I was down sized 2 weeks ago from my job of 8 years. We are in noway financially set for this to happen. I spend my waking hours searching for work & trying to figure out ways to save money. My dumb ass husband just copied me on an email he sent to BM.

BM,

I realize that this is “your” weekend, but I would like to go with SS11 on this Canoe Trip/Campout. I think it’d be great fun and a great bonding experience between me and my son.

Please let me know what you think.

Selfish husband

My email to DH
I really wish that before you make decisions like this that you would talk to me first. We are supposed to be cutting back on spending, that is my birthday weekend & it is the end of my recieving a paycheck. That would be a really nice time for my husband to spend time with me, not leaving me home alone with one of your other sons.

Am I wrong to be pissed. I know he is going to blow & be a prick in response.

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Submitted by WickedStepMom18 on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 12:19pm

You are NOT wrong but somehow he's going to make you feel that way. I completely understand how you are feeling. Somehow - real life issues get in the way of guilty daddy issues. Bills? What are they?! :jawdrop: It's extremely upsetting when you have every right to take issue with this but somehow you'll end up being the bad guy for voicing your opinion/feelings. It's your birthday weekend after all - why would you want to spend time with your husband??!! Geeze. Chin up, girl. Tell you what - I'll come there and smack the @#$% out of him. Sound good? And when we're done - come home with me and do the same to mine. Deal?

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Submitted by sweetthing on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 12:33pm

Sure thing wicked step mom. Here's another good one. I applied for a really awesome job that I would be awesome at. It pays 30G more a year which would make such a difference in our life. First words out of his mouth was if I got it could we start paying for extra's for the skids that he is not ordered to & that their mom pays for out of CS w/o much fuss. WTF! How about we pay off all our debt & put our child in a daycare center with better hours than the home daycare we have used so we aren't in a constant rush trying to get home to get him.

My skids do plenty of fun things, I wish I had their lives.

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Submitted by sweetthing on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 12:46pm

He just responded back with a fine, he hasn't heard back from her anyways. The woman probably has the day off, she has a great job where she has tons of time off & can work from home if her dog is sick, plus she makes tons of money. She isn't even a college graduate.

Personally I hate when either of them refer to the boys as " my son " Hello idiots! They are both of your kids.

Somedays I feel that he was way more in love with me when I had money.

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Wed, 07/27/2011 - 4:26pm

OMG. what is it about men and birthdays and their kids????
Seriously???
Why is my bday not important because he wants to do something with a skid??

Gosh, if I'm going to go somewhere for the weekend or the day without SO I will let him know. I will check to see if we have plans first.

I can see why you'd be seething. This was inconsiderate. I'm surprised you were so calm in your response.

For my bday, SO asked if i wanted to go to dinner then an hour away to see SS's baseball game. I said now. However, when it was canceled, he took skids out to dinner instead of coming home to me for my bday.

Well... he still thinks he did no wrong. Because I said I didn't want to go in the first place. Because his kids wanted to eat. Blegh!