Please ignore typing errors: on my phone in the car drivin to NC. SO is driving.

Incredibly long story made short. My best friend from highschool has lived in NC for the past decade or so. Before she relocated she and her husband had a daughter. Who is now 12 almost 13. Back when the kiddo was born my friend had asked if something happened to her and her husband would I be willing to take on the responsibility of the kid. I said yes, never imagining it would come to pass. It has. The 12yo called me this morning. Mom and Dad were killed two days ago in a car accident. NC put her in foster care not knowing who was supposed to have her. I have a copy of the will (with me) and am on my way to go get her. Thank god the kid had my number in her cell phone and her foster mother let her call me. I already called her case worker with DSS NC. I need a home study done by DCFS in Florida, background check etc. NC can run the background check, SO's mom has the key to my house, I called DCFS and explained they will get someone out to my house this weekend to inspect and approve it, the telephone interview I did with them will be a temporary approval to have them OK me (subject to the background check they will also run) for me to bring her home. Then next week at some point a DCFS worker will come out to the house and talk to her and I and do the official check ups. Apparently they will be in my life for the next year since a) I am not a blood member of her family and b) I have no kids. Not a biggy, I have nothing to hide.

I am really trying to make a check list of what I need to do. Help me out here ladies. Add to this as ideas occur to you.

1) Get "S" out of foster care! And deliver the biggest hug I have ever given anyone.
2) arrange for the packing up of my friends house- I am going to have everything shipped to FL. Most of it will sit in storage until 'S' is old enough to have her own place, and if she wants it she can have it. I figure eliminating the den, making that her room. S's bedroom stuff will come to my house, that way her room is decorated with her stuff. Giving her a sense of home/ normal.
3) Grief counceling. I am sure S is going to need it. I am figuring dcfs can recommend a good grief councelor and if they can't I will go through insurance. As soon as I have paperwork proving S is in my custody I can add her to my insurance.
4)Buring my friend and husband. No idea if they have life insurance policies or what. Once I show the will that I am executor they will let me in the house to find any paperwork. Question for you ladies: I am thinking of burying them in FL where S can go visit them. Yes? Or should I bury them in NC where they lived?? Don't know if it matters or not but the will is filed in the state of Florida. Hillsborough county.
5)School. I have to get S's school records and get her enrolled in school in FL.
6) Doctors: anyone know a GOOD pediatrician in the Tampa area? I do not like the one SO and BM use for the fskids. I know the man, he is an a**hole.
7)Hygene prodocts. S is black, I am white. I have no earthly clue what products are needed for her hair. She sent me a picture of her via cell this morning. She has extentions in her hair and they look ratty, obviously need to be redone. Professional for that, but I need to know what to buy her for products to use at home. I asked her and she said "shampoo". I am kind of assuming that african american hair and caucasin hair have different product needs due to there being different, if I am wrong and Nexxus products will work, PLEASE educate me!

I know I am missing stuff. Please advise!!