I feel bad for BM
not really. I think she is having a really bad month (last month) but I also think that she brought it on herself. 
It started when I finally told her how I felt about her the 1st week of May. I told her that I didn't like her and asked her to stop txting me. (it was like the 3rd txt from her in a month, i ignored the first 2) BF says that she doesn't take rejection well, so I am sure that she started planning to get rid of me. What she hadn't counted on was how BF really felt about her. I think she thought he was still in love with her. So when she went off on him about me and stated I was a 'problem' she expected him to support her, which he didn't. Instead he told her that HE didn't like her and only wanted to talk about the kids. So she had a double blow but there is more....
Sunday when she dropped the kids off at BF's house it was noticed that her man was not with her (he always comes with her). Of course it is up in there air as to why, becuase there is no way to know what she told him had happened. But on Sunday she returned photos of BF (one semi nude) and her wedding ring to BF. Personally if I found out my SO had that stuff from their ex - I would not be happy. And then - BF and BM's new man work at the same place and BF said that BM's man was staring at him all day - looking very hateful. BF ignored it, after all he didn't do anything wrong. I have heard him on the phone with BM, he was always short with her and acted uninterested. It's not like he gave her a reason to think that he still wanted her. If BM's man is upset about the photos or ring then he needs to be mad at BM about it. Then again BM could have lied to him and maybe he thinks BF did something. Either way it's not my issues unless that guys makes it my issue by coming after BF or I. I just noticed it and thought it was worth saying. Mostly becuase BM's man used to be BF's friend, that ended when he started dating his ex-wife 2 weeks after BM divorced him.
BM also left us a notebook to write stuff in about the boys. Which she is going to regret being to petty becuase BF is writing in it - nightly. Every small detail like how SS6 is all broke out from where she took him to the pool on the weekend (he has eczema) and didn't rise him off, and how I took him to karate. There are a lot of "we"'s in there and her notes have more "i"'s.
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Some BM's love love love
Some BM's love love love their fantasy that it is still only "I" when dealing with their kids.....they do not want to accept that once their ex remarries (or chooses a life partner, whether he chooses to Western marry or not), that person is part of his and his kids' lives......"we" is very hard for our BM to grasp as well. Some really resent the notion of a stepfamily and will do anything they can to fight it.
I have always believed that
I have always believed that honesty is the best policy, and I did give BM a chance. But when BM went off on (or about me) a few times and then tried to contact me - saying that she wanted to bury the hatchet (which I had heard before and went alone with only to have it stab me in the back) - I told her the truth and it felt great.
I don't think she understands why I don't like her and she hasn't said anything to BF about what I said to her (which is odd becuase she loves to tattle on me) I think she is embarrassed and shocked. BUT if you ever do tell your BM be prepared, I think BM is on a mission to get rid of me now. Which you can see how scared I am, it's just annoying. 
As for BF, he says that I am entitled to my feelings and he doesn't blame me for not liking her (he doesn't even like her). So after she started txting me I told him I was getting annoyed and was about to say something and he said go ahead.