So it is official, my sil is engaged and will be a sm within the next year. Poor girl. She is a beautiful intelligent girl, but has never been able to pick a great guy. Her bf in high school were thugs. Her bf in college cheated on her. Now her fiancé... He is divorced with twin 12 yo girls. Now, he does treat her better than the others, but in all honesty she could do better. Mil thinks this guy is as good as it gets. Let's see, fiancé is a heavy drinker to start with. He also openly admits that he isn't going to discipline his girls when he has them because he hardly sees them. (his girls live out of state) His parenting skills are nonexistant. His girls are immature. They are the ones who still sit on daddy's lap and love all over him. We went out to eat with them once and his girls were running around the place. They are 12. They sometimes still baby talk. My silhas never been married and has no kids. I don't know if she knows what she is getting into yet. I tried talking to her a while back about how things change when you marry a person with kids, but since her parents divorced and she grew up in blended family she kind of blew me off like she knows. So ok...she knows! Anyway, just talking out loud. It'll be interesting to see how it all works out down the road, esp since they wNt their own kids within a few years. Who knows? Maybe she'll show up here!