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Say you SS or SD dies what would you do??

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Submitted by Barbie2390 on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 3:44pm

If your SD or SS would die how would that make you feel?
A)HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY
B)SAD
C)DONT JOKE LIKE THAT
D)HOW SAD BUT OH WELL, ANYWAYS I'M GOING TO GO GET MY NAILS DONE THEN DO SOME SHOPPING.

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Barbie2390's picture

Submitted by Barbie2390 on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 3:53pm

Our conciler asked me this question. I lost my baby and loosing my husband to this Skid

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Submitted by ubrngoutdbitchnme on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 3:59pm

I'm sorry that you lost your baby but I think D) is just too cold blooded for anyone out there. Your counselor seriously asked you D)?

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Submitted by CaptainD on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 4:14pm

why wouldnt her counselor ask her that? counselors are supposed to be able to talk to you about the deep dark things.... you only see PC counselors?

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Submitted by ubrngoutdbitchnme on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 3:59pm

I'm sorry that you lost your baby but I think D) is just too cold blooded for anyone out there. Your counselor seriously asked you D)?

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Submitted by ubrngoutdbitchnme on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 3:59pm

I'm sorry that you lost your baby but I think D) is just too cold blooded for anyone out there. Your counselor seriously asked you D)?

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Submitted by newmom01 on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 4:00pm

OOH Don't joke like that what goes around comes around, you reap what you sew...... Although I really really really want to answer I just cant afriad of which one I would pick

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Submitted by CaptainD on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 4:16pm

ill bite.

i would be sad because I know how much my husband would be hurting.

I have contemplated this before, and yes I have thought of all the ways my life would be easier.. but then i also thought of how much my husband would suffer, and its just not worth it.

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 4:57pm

This. I'd be sad because my DH and all our kids would be devastated. I'm not particularly attached to my SDs, but I don't hate them and I don't want anything bad to happen to them. I am very attached to SS, though, and I would grieve deeply if anything ever happened to him.

Honestly, my life would be much easier if the BMs evaporated. I don't have many skid problems that aren't directly caused by the BMs. The skids are cool when they're not 'under the influence'.

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Submitted by liks on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 11:38am

yeap...totally AGREE AGREE AGREE....

I ask myself this....if me and DH died....how do we divide the house up?

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Submitted by afrazier212 on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 4:54pm

I would be none of the above but sick to my stomach, incompetant, mad, sad, lost, alone, broken hearted, empty, anything my FDH would be feeling so would I......This question is out of this world. Put yourself in others shoes, and if you can't handle your skid; DON'T, their probably better off that way!!!! Get your own place and distance yourself from them and have your relationship with DH if you feel it necessary! Hate to be rude but that ??? offended me...... :O

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 5:27pm

Grieve, morn and get on with life.

We lost my youngest brother nearly 40yrs ago and we still celebrate his life and morn his loss.

He is part of the Rags clan and mom, dad and I are better people because of the time we had with him. My brother was too young to remember him and was only 2yo when the youngest was born and passed.

If my son passed I would be devastated but .... his mom and I and our families would grieve, morn and get on with life.

As sick and as sad as it is to say this ..... I don't think the SpermClan would have nearly as hard a time with it as we would.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 7:23pm

D I'd probably spring for a full set of acrylic nails, a pedicure, eyebrow waxing and a massage.

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Submitted by mommy_of_4 on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 10:58am

I give you guys props for being so honest. People will feel the way they do no matter how horrible those feelings may be. How can you be saddened by someone who has made your life complete hell?? These are not little bitty kids, these (in my case) are teenagers who know right from wrong and intentionally set out to cause problems. The key word would be "INTENTIONALLY". I mean if another adult intentionally set out to hurt you, you wouldn't put up with it. I know how I feel about those adults who have done that and I don't like them so why would it be any different? Yeah I would feel for their families because some how they managed to love them, but I didn't.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 7:56pm

I'll send you mine for a day and you will change your tune, actually I think you'll be calling me to pick him up in 15 minutes and the OP posted this to be OT and silly she, nor anyone else wishes harm to their skids.

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Submitted by buttercookie on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 5:27pm

Oh I'd be upset for my husband and wouldn't rub it in but it'd secretly be a relief to me and I don't hate my skids I hate their behavior. They can be loving its just when they want something. I thought they'd outgrow that selfishness but I'm still waiting.

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Submitted by KatDarling on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 8:26pm

Over 20 years ago my dad lost a son, he still feels the loss keenly today. I would never wish such pain on my FDH. HOWEVER, if I had a time machine, you know I would be rewinding 9 years and buying someone a box of condoms, heehee.

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 03/21/2011 - 9:11pm

Kat,

My parents lost my youngest brother nearly 39 years ago. Like your dad, they, and I feel my brothers loss very keenly.

A parent does not loose a child without a life long feeling of loss. Neither does a child that looses a baby brother or sister.

My condolences to your dad. I have not lost a child but I was there with them when they lost their son. I was 9yo when he died.

I remember him with happy warmth and a keen sense of loss.

Best regards,
Rick

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Submitted by The big G on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 2:58am

E. Make sure I had A good alibi. Smile
Seriously though I would never wish that kind of pain of loosing a child on anyone. My sister died 3 years ago and my mum and my sisters sm still talk on the phone of there grief to each other and they hated each other before my sister got ill. The only slightly bad intention I have had towards sd is if I could afford boarding school fee's in some remote country.

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Submitted by mommy_of_4 on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 6:09am

There are alot of people in my life who if they died, it wouldn't faze me. If it were my mother, my DH or my kids then it would affect me, a great deal.
If my skids died, i would feel a great deal for my husband. i wouldn't be happy but I wouldn't be sad. If someone you didn't like died, would you be sad?

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Submitted by skylarksms on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 10:10am

I'd be sad if either skid died. My skids are not the horror shows that some of the others on this site are. For the most part, they are respectful, polite and clean. They do have their things they do that annoy me, but so did my own bio son.

I would go to the funeral but stay as far away from BM and her clan as possible.

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Submitted by momof3tobe on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 11:20am

I might be slightly relieved to be done with the whole stepmom experience but I don't think I could actually be happy that my DH is hurting.

I think I'll jump on the E) bandwagon: I'd grieve for my DH's loss and then move on.

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Submitted by StillSearching on Tue, 03/22/2011 - 2:50pm

I just hate death in general and get sad when I hear about anybody die, that is just my nature though. So I would be sad that I lost someone that was in my life and I would be sad for my BF. I don't like his kids at times but I don't want them to be gone.