Delima-sd 24 is getting married in july, it’s about 4 states away so we’re trying to figure out how the hell to get there. dh hasn’t seen his dd but once since she was 2 (last year) was a bitter sweet meeting. Any who, as most of you know we have 3 minor’s to raise sd 14, sd 13 and dd 8.

Here’s my delima, last year ALL spring they got in bad habits of O BY THE WAY we’re doing this regardless what you think bs. They were talking for MONTHS about a school dance, and we are tight with money and have to have EVERYTHING planned ahead of time, so we told them over and over again for MONTHS to let us know ASAP when the dance was so if on our weekend we could get them there or make the appropriate arrangments. (they kept forgetting to bring the flier-yeah, bm is just as guilty and should’ve we can’t MAKE them involve us) so THE MORNING OF was a Friday morning on OUR weekend and sd 13 at the time called at FN FIVE AM “our school dance is tonight dad” he just said ok, didn’t promise we’d get them there, since my dd is in ball, we already had plans for her that evening so we told them our decision was that evening, that IF her game was over in time they could call bm to come get them and get them there. They call, no answer (damn the bad luck) so 2 hours before the dance was over bm called, came and got them, and brought them back.

FATHER’S DAY-BIG nightmare! MONTHS ahead of time bm signed them up for a church camp KNOWING DAMN well when they would be leaving (THE DAY OF FATHER’S DAY) without talking to dh about it. HEARD NOTHING nada, zilch, about this CAMP until THE WEEKEND BEFORE and here’s how it went:
Sd14: o btw dad we wont be able to be here next weekend for father’s day, we have a camp to go to and the church bus is leaving at noon
Me(I couldn’t bite my tongue to this bs): How long have you guys known about this camp?
Sd14: for a while
Me: and you’re JUST telling your dad? :jawdrop:
Sd14: we forgot!
Me: so you’re leaving at noon on Sunday, and you can’t spend Friday, Saturday, and Sunday morning with your FATHER?
Sd14: we need to pack
Me: wtf (literally I cussed up a storm) are you doing all week??
Sd14 and sd 13: we are helping mom clean the house so it’ll be clean before we go
Me: ok so is it NOT an option that you be packed by Friday night and you can bring your bags to your dad’s with you?
Skids: no, mom wants to make sure we get everything so we have to spend the weekend packing
Me: your mom can’t take your bags up to the church and MEET you there before the bus leaves?
Skids: we don’t think that’ll work
Me: We can get your bags from your mom this weekend, after she finish’s packing and we can take you to the camp so you can spend father’s day with your FATHER. Where’s camp, I don’t care if it’s in TEXAS (we're in oklahoma) we’ll get you there, You don’t have to pick between your father and camp you can make both
Sd14: they want us all to leave as a group
So dh calls bm….something along the lines of:
Dh: what’s this I hear about a camp next weekend?
Bm: I know but I already paid for it, I don’t’ know why they sched it to leave on father’s day
dh: you couldn’t have CONSULTED ME FIRST
bm: I didn’t sign them up til it was too late to consult you first.
(wtf EVER! :sick: )
So long story short they stay with bm for father’s day weekend, for some reason we DID expect a CALL NOPE, NOT A THING, NOTHIng, later on a future weekend it was all excuses of "we were busy" :sick: , had to leave, no one had a cell to call you blah blah blah YOU SELFISH JUST LIKE BM SORRY EXCUSES FOR KIDS, YOU COULD’VE CALLED AT 4AM AND THAT WOULD’VE BEEN FINE, but no stick your heads up bm’s ass right where she WANTS YOU your fn marionettes to her and will REMAIN THAT WAY! :sick:
Mother’s day weekend rolls around….dh’s family does a reunion EVERY YEAR out of town, I’m going, it’s MY WEEKEND. sd14 “why do they have to ALWAYS hold it on mother’s day weekend that means we can ever go” :sick: me: sorry, we’re going and I’m glad they hold it then. Sd13 I WANT TO GO but I want to be home Saturday so I can spend mother’s day with mom, sd 14 I want to spend ALL of mothers day with mom………….(my thought) yeah but f your dad on his weekend, who gives a sh what he wants with you guys. So O DEAR sd13 goes and I have to limit MY weekend so we can have her for SOMETHING. (there’s more of skids fn their dad like this)

Here’s major PAYBACK }:) . Sd23 is getting married FOUR states away, sd13 and 14 are expecting to go………..HELL NO, I’m the bread winner and I cannot justify taking them with them treating their father this way….how shall we break the news? Wait til bm picks them up the day before like they did us and OBTW or wait til we get back? or just flat out let the monster come out and tell them since I'M paying for it, THEY will not go end of story!

what o ever shall i do??