Hello,

I don't know where to start except the beginning. I am 31 years old and I am a mother to an 11, 9 and 6 year old. I meant their father in HS and very stupidly jumped into a relationship with him. We had a very yo-yo marriage but the cheating and physical abuse became too much for me to take and i did not want to raise my children in this type of home. I reconnected with my ex boyfriend from HS and we began dating 5 years later we live together have a life together and are now planning a wedding.

My children's father is not involved in their life except when he takes me to court to lower his child support payments he does not make. He occasionally texts me daughter or sends them messages on Facebook.

My fiance has a daughter who is 7 years old. Now that is another whole other issue. Her mother is a horrible mother. She physically and emotionally abuses this little girl. We have been in court since day one and constantly getting children serves involved. August 2009 we finally had a worker who cared enough and had enough guts to step in and remove her from the home. She lived with us from August 09 to August 10. It was a hard but beautiful year. Now she is back with them mother and going back into the same life style.

It seems like our life revolves around his daughter and her mothers life. It is very diffcult to deal with sometimes I want to throw in the towel but my love for him and his daugther is too great.

I needed to join a site where I can vent and also get advice. So here I am!