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buttercookie's picture

Stupid BM went out drinking last Friday and had her purse stolen so she calls MY husband and wants him to help. He told her to call the police and hung up. Good DH. She's been tramping around more lately since her alimony is ending in August. She did have someone who asked her to marry him a few years ago but she told him she wouldn't get married because she didn't want to lose her alimony. He made good money and told her she didn't have to work but could if she wanted to. She is so bitter towards my husband she screwed herself over because the guy ran like hell when her bitter side came out and he saw she'd rather get even with her x than move on in life. What has me confused is why the heck she'd call my hubby in the first place. Last time she called him he told her that now that the kids were grown he didn't have to talk to her and wouldn't unless something happened with the adult kids, he told her to stop harrassing him actually he yelled it at her. I know he hasn't spoken with her by phone because I have detailed billing on our cells and her number has never come up until recently. I guess the pharmacy must have been out of her anti psychotic drugs.

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Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

...and desperate too. ( drunk and was thinking about her ending free money, I mean alimony.)

buttercookie's picture

I hope she finds someone and goes away she's rather annoying to have to deal with. She pops out of the woodwork everyone in awhile and is just generally a nuisance. Things were worse when SS was underage but there really isn't anything she can do anymore. She can't get anymore CS, she can't get reimbursed for any ficticious doctor visits or half the price of clothes she either didn't buy or took back the minute she got half from us. She just calls every so often with requests for help on things and is always told NO. You'd think she'd learn by now but I have no hopes of her finding anyone, she is partially bald and has taken to wearing her dead sisters wigs that don't even fit her so she looks horrid, if you can get past her looks then she opens her mouth and then game over. I really don't understand why she just can't stay away we aren't mean to her but were not friends either. We just want her to go on with her life without us

aggravated1's picture

DH's ex left him when her sister died, and she moved into her sisters apartment. She took nothing of hers over there for a solid YEAR. She wore her dead sisters underwear, clothes, deodorant, used her hairbrushes-everything. It was bizarre. I remember just being bewildered that she didn't take her shoes with her, what woman doesn't take her SHOES?? LOL

Butterflykissesandlicks's picture

"You'd think she'd learn by now but I have no hopes of her finding anyone, she is partially bald and has taken to wearing her dead sisters wigs that don't even fit her so she looks horrid, if you can get past her looks then she opens her mouth and then game over."

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: :jawdrop:

What???

skylarksms's picture

I would change my numbers or block hers. No reason for her to contact you EVER. If there is an emergency with one (adult) kid, another kid can call to tell you. You don't need the BM to do it.

buttercookie's picture

We did change our numbers youngest SS gave her our numbers and DH insists his kid (no matter how rotten) know our numbers in case of emergency. I can see his point to an extent since I'd want my kids to be able to call in an emergency. She really doesn't call that much I would rather she not call at all and yes she wears her dead sisters wigs I find that just nasty but hey to each their own I guess. We changed the locks after youngest SS moved since I didn't trust him to not make and or give her a key, I don't trust either of them. Oldest SS does have a key but he also knows I'd press charges on her if she was in my house and he's grown up so I don't think he'd allow her in.

skylarksms's picture

I have an app on my phone that allows me to program in numbers and then choose what action I want to take with them:

1. Normal
2. Don't ring phone, go directly to voicemail
3. Don't ring phone, hang up on caller

You could check into if your phone carrier offers something similar? Mine was for a Blackberry and cost was $5.

Best $5 I've ever spent.

buttercookie's picture

Yeah ATT has the block feature, shes the only one I'd block so she's not worth the cost. I just have her phone number as an annoying alarm so I know it's her calling. She only calls every couple of months and when she does she makes a few calls within days of each other and then poof she's gone again for another 2-3 months. I'm really not overly upset she does this at all esp. since my dh no longer runs to her beck and call, I just don't understand WHY she does it. I'll probably never know, like I said in the first post the pharmacy must have been out of her meds.