OMG - DH a Dick Again | StepTalk.org

So....the truck payment for ss20 is late....and I asked DH to call and ask what was up....and he said:

"DONT WORRY ABOUT IT!" in a harsh tone. Wow, I didn't deserve THAT now did I?

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Uhhhh no, I paid off the

Uhhhh no, I paid off the truck with my $2000 and 4000 from our bill paying money.

It is free and clear. I could tell DH this right now, but he'd just bully me and degrade me like usual.

I will tell him on monday to check on this truck payment. If I do it while he is at work, he can't belittle me and I will appear powerful over the phone.

You are adorable to even give

You are adorable to even give a crap. It's just nice to see it in print. I'm not just assuming he's a jerk, I have validation!!! LOL! He tries to tell me "I" am the problem.

My H tried to claim that "I"

My H tried to claim that "I" was the problem and needed counseling and not him.

I went. And found out that H was being verbally abusive to me. I also learned different reactions to what he said and what I should say in response.

Although it may just be the "honeymoon stage", I know that he is treating me a lot better now. It's funny because I have never been as much of a bitch before!

Today DH is acting all normal

Today DH is acting all normal and happy. You are right, I did imply he had a choice when I "asked" him to call ss. I told him that he was bullying me and I didn't like it. He said "I know."

DH knows we need the $300, I told him that money came from my college book paying money. I think this is evidence that there is a lesson here. It's when your heart wants to do something nice..and you can't tell it no BUT in your mind you know you will get burned.

I call still have a soft heart, but now I'll have the wisdom not to help the kid because I know it will always end up burning me. And when DH asks to help ss17 get a car, I'll say, no, I'm tired of getting burned by you people. Burned by sd21, ss20, and ss17. Why would I want to help them do anything after all these years of bullshit?

OMG Now DH just told me that

OMG Now DH just told me that it was silly of me to "count" on that money....wtf??

please tell me the title is

please tell me the title is in your name??? until the car is paid for???

I can relate to this post.

I can relate to this post. If it was "silly" of you to expect any money from SS as truck payment, then I think it's "silly" of you to continue letting him use the truck without getting anything in return. I would contact SS directly and let him know that if payment is not received by X then the truck needs to be returned to your home by Z or else it will be reported as stolen.

I have been dealing with a similar situation. My SS18 currently owes me for Jan car insurance and Nov/Dec/Jan cell phone for a total of $275. DH was warned when SS was added to the plans that his services would be cancelled if he couldn't pay the bills. But DH just wants to come up with all kinds of excuses for SS and why he can't pay. We travelled 1.5 hrs last Friday to visit family and SS agreed to come too, but he was a no show. Now, DH has told him that he has to spend the gas money to bring the money to us. If he's not here by Friday, I'm cancelling without any further notice.

This all escalated into DH

This all escalated into DH throwing down 3- 100 dollar bills on the kitchen table, duh, out of our joint account. (I could have just ordered the damn book out of our account, but I always feel guilty, like I'm a burden).

The truck is in my name...he's paid 2200 out of 6,000. I just don't think DH knows how stressful juggling the bills actually is. DH thinks he's rick because he makes more money than he's ever made in his life.....but still, it doesn't mean we're rock stars!

Repo. Then list it on ebay

Repo. Then list it on ebay and tell ss he has five days to buy it and pay for it. Why can't he go to the bank and get a loan.